> those — often Asian, usually male — who find themselves excluded from certain intangible perquisites of American life: love, success, security, and belonging I’m going to need some actual data on that, compared to outcomes of different gender/ethnicity combos.
* 2007 Chicago Booth paper about online dating (https://faculty.chicagobooth.edu/emir.kamenica/documents/rac...): One important (probably unsurprising) find was that "Females exhibit stronger racial preferences than males." Also from the paper: " Finally, we can reject the hypothesis of equal preference against partners of other races for white, black, and Hispanic subjects, owing largely to the greater preference against Asian males by all other races"
* If you prefer anecdata, here are some Asian stories from the frontlines: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/asian-americans-dating-.... Asian women are desirable but they find that this cuts both ways, i.e. the desirability comes with unwanted fetishization on the dragon lady (O-Ren Ishii, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kill_Bill:_Volume_1) - geisha scale (Suzy Wong https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_World_of_Suzie_Wong_(film)).
* If you're interested in the above fetishization of Asian women, here's an interesting paper on how they have been portrayed in Hollywood by analyzing four movies that span 20th century: https://web.uri.edu/iaics/files/07Wang.pdf