Limiting Social Media Decreases Loneliness and Depression • Hacker News Board

Re: Limiting Social Media Decreases Loneliness and Depression

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Post by 8bitsrule » Wed, Nov 14, 2018, 5:49 AM UTC

nhauz wrote: post #34

newen wrote: post #28

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Metafilter? Pretty sure the reason there are no arguments is they purged everyone who doesn't follow the groupthink. And the fee helps with banned people not rejoining ofcourse.

So mefi is the same as HN but you even have to pay on top of it? ;P

I'm pretty sure that what I described is -not- the same as HN. New here?

The advantage of one, small, upfront payment is that it discourages sockpuppeting, and thus anonymous sniping. The only way to 'downvote' something is with another piece of text with a username on it ... a lot more revealing of motive than a reflexive button-click. Discouraging for sick puppies.

You know (or don't) ... like The Well was back in the day.

Re: Limiting Social Media Decreases Loneliness and Depression

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Post by alex__c » Wed, Nov 14, 2018, 10:44 AM UTC

Aeolun wrote: post #133

drewmate wrote: post #85

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I'm kind of in the same boat. I assumed that I would be able to participate in normal friendships without social media (the way people did for generations before me). Instead, I think people just assume I'm ignoring them on facebook because I'm anti-social. I've learned to be more proactive in maintaining relationships, but it often feels very one-sided since many other people are used to just getting passive status…

I’ve had people genuinely get angry at me because I’d just been ignoring all IM’s for a few days. They were worried about whether I was still alive, but the concept of calling to confirm was apparently foreign. I kind of want to stop using social media, but I guess everyone will think I hate them or something.

It's an interesting bit, this. When you open an avenue of communication, then others get re-prioritized accordingly.

Having text options lowers the perceived need for calling in person. Having Facebook lowers the need for in person contact, since people gets some crumbs of info about you off your Facebook feed. And so on.

What can one do, alone? Can you reverse a trend that's affecting all your friends and acquaintances? Not likely. Maybe just for a few close friends, but everyone else.. meh.

Re: Limiting Social Media Decreases Loneliness and Depression

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Post by alex__c » Wed, Nov 14, 2018, 10:47 AM UTC

coralreef wrote: post #144

Aeolun wrote: post #142

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I should be allowed not to use medium X? Why am I forced to have and check (daily, at least) IM?

Turn notifications on, don't check it until you get notifications?

Notifications have this huge downside that they disturb you from your work and from your leisure time, fragmenting attention to the point of being useless to yourself.

This has long been decried by people like Cal Newport and others. Knowledge workers need their attention span intact, and yet all the modern tools make interruptions more likely.

I've been in a Messenger group of only 5 people, who were trying to synchronize going to the movies. My phone kept bleeping for 5 damn hours, until they figured what to do. Absolutely disgusting.