What about an option for people who are a member but did not meet the person they are with through the site.
You can check off more than 1 option...
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#42Earlier quoted context omitted.
You are doing it wrong. The way to do it is to let them come to you. I've never initiated any conversation on OKCupid and I've been on dates with about 50 women from that site. They have always contacted me first. In mid september of this year I had 15 different women contact me in one week, resulting in 10 dates, which was the record. The key is to just have a few decent photos and be funny. It's very surprising how…
If by > put out on the first date [...] Make sure you can easily get a prescription for antibiotics. you mean "don't bother practising safe sex", then are you nuts or am I missing something? Some STIs are for life and antibiotics aren't gonna cut it.
Yeah. Paradoxically, I've found if someone makes a point to say they are clean and not to worry about it that's the most important time to wrap it up, maybe twice. I'm sure there's at least one rap lyric about this.
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#43What about an option for people who are a member but did not meet the person they are with through the site.
You can check off more than 1 option...
There's no combo of options which matches that. The "member of" options all have specific text such as being "not in relationship" or "in a relationship with someone from the site".
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#44Have been dating somebody I've met on OKCupid for a year and a half now. Couldn't be happier.
One tip, however: if you're a straight male and in Silicon Valley / South Bay, consider setting your search radius to also include San Francisco.
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#45personally I find all these dating sites to be completely useless for guys...too much competition. when you hit on a girl in the real world...at worst, you are competing with the 10-15 other guys who've had the guts to talk to her in the past week. with online, you are competing with pretty much every guy within 100-150 miles...and since most play the numbers game...you are just one of the hundreds who've messaged he…
> you are just one of the hundreds who've messaged her.
Actually, I found it to be completely the opposite. Most of the guys messaging the girls either (sorted by frequency):
1) Send a picture of their privates
2) Send something incoherent e.g., "GURL UR SO HOT"
3) Send a long, creepy essay
4) Have zero compatibility with her, haven't read her profile (past the picture), etc... and are sending something generic.
So if you actually read their profile and send intelligent messages selectively, you'll get responses.
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#46Dating a girl 3 (almost 4) years strong I met on OKCupid. She messaged me back then, after I kind of gave up on the site (Some bad experiences on in-person dates, yikes). I liked her message, replied, conversation led to MSN, then finally we met up for a dinner and movie night.
I used it because I was out of school and working in a small company with only 5 employees so my options were almost nill on finding a date outside of the bar scene, which is more skewed to getting laid than actual dating :)
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#47personally I find all these dating sites to be completely useless for guys...too much competition. when you hit on a girl in the real world...at worst, you are competing with the 10-15 other guys who've had the guts to talk to her in the past week. with online, you are competing with pretty much every guy within 100-150 miles...and since most play the numbers game...you are just one of the hundreds who've messaged he…
> you are just one of the hundreds who've messaged her. Actually, I found it to be completely the opposite. Most of the guys messaging the girls either (sorted by frequency): 1) Send a picture of their privates 2) Send something incoherent e.g., "GURL UR SO HOT" 3) Send a long, creepy essay 4) Have zero compatibility with her, haven't read her profile (past the picture), etc... and are sending something generic. So i…
Having talked to quite a few girls with OKC accounts, and having seen their inboxes, this is surprisingly true. I didn't believe it until I saw it, but this is pretty much all of the major archetypes.
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#48Earlier quoted context omitted.
I think that only works if your looks are above average. I once used a photo of an actor on my profile just to see the effect. That raised quite some responses without me doing anything. Then I replaced my photo with a real one (my best one back then) and the number of responses instantly dropped tenfold.
I don't think I'm ugly but not particularly attractive, either. However, your post is interesting because I apparently do look very similar to a certain B-list celebrity. That is what most women open with. "Has anyone ever told you that you look exactly like X..."
I really hope they don't end that sentence with "Steve Buscemi."
Also, my understanding is that using two condoms increases risk of breakage.
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#49I met the best woman ever on OkCupid. Three years on and it's better than ever.
Product wise, it's much better than Match.com to be sure. It's the nicest, cleanest, most fun user experience on the web for meeting new people.
Pro-tip: Skip sending messages and hit up your prospects via the site's built-in IM. Realtime interaction gives you more opportunities to stand out and express yourself.
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#50I met the best woman ever on OkCupid. Three years on and it's better than ever. Product wise, it's much better than Match.com to be sure. It's the nicest, cleanest, most fun user experience on the web for meeting new people. Pro-tip: Skip sending messages and hit up your prospects via the site's built-in IM. Realtime interaction gives you more opportunities to stand out and express yourself.
I have to disagree with your tip. When someone IMs me out of the blue without any prior contact I think it's a little too eager. I prefer to start with a message or two and then move into more real-time interaction.