The underlying issue is that people are afraid to try and explore. They form a mental model of how to do something, look for something that fits into that model, and then are happy. If they guess the wrong model, though, then they are stuck forever. Skilled computer users, on the other hand, don't let a failing model bother them. They just try something else. Most people will do this for anything but computers, thoug…
I actually recently had a talk with my parents about just that; how, unlike years ago, computers have gotten better to the point where nothing they can do will 'break' them, so they should feel free to click around and try to figure out what they might be looking for. Software tools like CrossLoop have also made my life a hell of a lot easier in maintaining this promise, since anytime anything goes wrong I just tell…
I bought my Dad (74) one this year, as his first "computer", and the first thing I told him was not to worry because he couldn't break it by doing the wrong thing. Now he's sending email and playing Words with Friends. It's been transformative for him, and I believe his acclimation has been made possible mostly by the software's resilience to mistakes.