> dominated by older, somewhat conservative leaning discourse
You put it in the very kindest light. It is often simply appalling.
> I recommend CW and FT8 as less conversational ways of getting on the air.
Yes. I do slow speed CW a couple of nights a week, just as a way to relax. I can't speak to FT8 but CW people tend to pride themselves on manners.
Learning the code is a question of downloading an app, or listening to a graded set of steps in the car or while walking the dog, for a month. If you can do 5-10 wpm (which just means you recognize the letters, digits, and a few punctuation marks) then you will not have much trouble finding people interested in talking to you. Me, for one.