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These are problems other tools have solved, without having to resort to a walled garden network or having a SPOF. Sure, maybe Signal has done some useful technicality -legal- protections for now for US citizens, but what happens when a state actor threatens to kill the family of a Signal employee if they don't ship a very subtle compromise in how their binaries source random numbers, or if they don't sell the metadat…
but what happens when a state actor threatens to kill the family [...] No messenger system protects you against that. You seem to be going through the full sequence of well-known poor ways to evaluate the security of something like an instant messenger, starting with the feature matrix, going through 'it can't be secure if it's not open source/self-hosted/federated' and reaching the Mossad. Which is a worthwhile and…
If the system doesn't have central server then it would become more difficult. You cannot subpoena a Tox network.
Any messenger that requires and stores a phone number (read your real-world identity and physical location) is neither anonymous nor private.
Also, a centralized messenger with a single server means that all traffic between all the users around the world goes through one data-center in one country that can do what? Observe the traffic and detect who is using this messenger, at least their IP address and country.
Of course, for most users this doesn't change anything because they don't do anything illegal. But if they don't do anything illegal then they don't really need protection and can use VK or Telegram.