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How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by khaledh »

SequoiaHope wrote: post #46

I just wanted to say that I walked away from Facebook about a year and a half ago now. I didn’t delete it, I just logged out and uninstalled the mobile app. It’s all been totally fine. The most social social media I use now is reddit, where I’m more just talking to people. I don’t post status updates anywhere, and often amazing things happen to me that I never tell anyone about. I eat great meals and don’t share. I b…

I did exactly the same about a year and a half ago, except I deactivated my account (kind of a step between just logging off and completely deleting it), and I still feel the positive impact of that decision on my life until today. I encourage more people to do the same.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by Ftuuky »

jameskegel wrote: post #128
antjanus wrote: post #122

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it's happening for millenials already. Everyone I talk to feels that emptiness of blindly sharing status posts and photos. And pretty much everyone I talk to about this mentions that they do those status updates and photos for family members more than friends, and that they keep up with friends differently. In fact, I keep up with all of my friends through direct messages on one platform or another or IRL. The only e…

A closed and self hosted family social network without the marketing momentum would be great. Self hosting removes the need for marketing and data sharing shenanigans that most companies require for growth.

My family does that with a Whatsapp group.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by giobox »

PascLeRasc wrote: post #155
bogomipz wrote: post #85

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That that would also be a generation who had their baby and childhood pictures unwittingly shared and now owned by social media companies. This is something I find really strange and unsettling.

I really admire what a family friend did after she had a baby. She isn't posting any photos of him on social media, and says it's because he can't consent to have his photos shared publicly. Lots of her friends keep pestering her saying "I want to see the baby!" and she says they're welcome to come over, and suddenly they don't want to see him that much. They just want something they can click like on.

This logic is bizarre to me. He can’t consent to being fed, clothed or having his diaper changed either. I imagine she likely still does all three.

For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by giobox »

jameskegel wrote: post #129
davchana wrote: post #98

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I too, about 1.5 years agi, realised that facebook & orkut is consuming too much time of mine, kind of addictive. I coldly uninstalled app, logged out everywhere. Felt so free. Then found reddit & hackernews, & now again whenever I feel i am spending too much time, I just delete the shortcuts of these from my most-recent-tabs.

This is the first time I’ve ever heard someone say Orkut was a time monopolizer. Can you share a bit about your background and use for this network?

Outside of the US a number of social networks that aren’t Facebook found huge success in some countries at one time or another, especially in the mid to late 2000s before Facebook fully established its dominance, it’s not all that surprising.

It’s still the case in a handful of markets (China etc).

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by saghm »

giobox wrote: post #163
PascLeRasc wrote: post #155

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I really admire what a family friend did after she had a baby. She isn't posting any photos of him on social media, and says it's because he can't consent to have his photos shared publicly. Lots of her friends keep pestering her saying "I want to see the baby!" and she says they're welcome to come over, and suddenly they don't want to see him that much. They just want something they can click like on.

This logic is bizarre to me. He can’t consent to being fed, clothed or having his diaper changed either. I imagine she likely still does all three. For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal.

Not feeding, clothing, or changing your baby's diaper is objectively bad for their health; not sharing their pictures on Facebook is not anywhere close to that. I don't see how it's bizarre to want to keep your baby healthy but otherwise let them decide things for themselves once they're old enough.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by bogomipz »

giobox wrote: post #163
PascLeRasc wrote: post #155

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I really admire what a family friend did after she had a baby. She isn't posting any photos of him on social media, and says it's because he can't consent to have his photos shared publicly. Lots of her friends keep pestering her saying "I want to see the baby!" and she says they're welcome to come over, and suddenly they don't want to see him that much. They just want something they can click like on.

This logic is bizarre to me. He can’t consent to being fed, clothed or having his diaper changed either. I imagine she likely still does all three. For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal.

>"For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal"

And this person has made the decision for their child that whatever social media company is not going to own their child's image. What is is "bizarre" about that.

I hardly think caring for a child and letting a corporation own their image are even remotely the same thing.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by giobox »

bogomipz wrote: post #166
giobox wrote: post #163

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This logic is bizarre to me. He can’t consent to being fed, clothed or having his diaper changed either. I imagine she likely still does all three. For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal.

>"For a parent, making choices on your child’s behalf is kinda part of the deal" And this person has made the decision for their child that whatever social media company is not going to own their child's image. What is is "bizarre" about that. I hardly think caring for a child and letting a corporation own their image are even remotely the same thing.

I don’t disagree with anything you’ve said, it’s perfectly fair, but what you’ve said is not the logic she is using.

If she had said this I see no logical discrepancy, but to couch your logic in terms of a child’s lack of consent is the point that makes little sense.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by TomMarius »

ryandrake wrote: post #139
TomMarius wrote: post #79

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> many other people don't use FB either This is the problem, I'd be literally the only one. I tried it once - of course they didn't exclude me, but a lot of info got to me too late (when I had other plans already) and smaller events not at all.

The way I see it is: if friends won’t stay in contact with me without me being on Facebook... then they are not really friends. Leaving FB actually improved my social life because it became clear who were the real friends.

They do stay in contact! This is about small-ish events like a friend posting "hey guys, I'm hosting a dinner tomorrow". I can't blame them for forgetting about me (our group is rather large), some of them don't even have my phone number.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by jedimastert »

tmalsburg2 wrote: post #143

If you lose contact with someone after deleting Facebook, they were not your friend in the first place. My conclusion after deleting my account four years ago. Getting rid of Facebook was one of the best decisions of my life.

I don't think I agree with that idea. People have different ways of communicating, not to mention I don't think people who do use Facebook as a main communication method should be punished because you think you're above it.

Re: How to delete Facebook and not lose your friends and photos

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Post by throwaway9763 »

jedimastert wrote: post #169
tmalsburg2 wrote: post #143

If you lose contact with someone after deleting Facebook, they were not your friend in the first place. My conclusion after deleting my account four years ago. Getting rid of Facebook was one of the best decisions of my life.

I don't think I agree with that idea. People have different ways of communicating, not to mention I don't think people who do use Facebook as a main communication method should be punished because you think you're above it.

People choosing to use a walled garden are being punished by those who would rather not? You may have that reversed - this isn't about thinking you're "above" a communication method, but it is worth noting that Facebook requires using their specific service while many other methods (phone, email, etc.) can be used from a variety of providers.

So, saying "I only use Facebook to communicate" and expecting others to conform is a bit more naturally presumptuous than choosing to leave Facebook - and it's a fair point that if a relationship can't survive not using a specific proprietary tool, then maybe it wasn't that strong of a relationship.

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