Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by abledon » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 8:00 AM UTC

zer00eyz wrote: post #9

abledon wrote: post #8

You are not defined by your job or pay level, do not become compulsive about the ‘social prestige’ 1 job gives over another Watch more Sadhguru videos on YouTube to get a better view on life. Don’t learn java as your first programming language. Start spreadsheets on a bunch of life areas instead of just scrounging together data every time a form or tax return needs to be filed (job, living location, investments, etc)

> Don’t learn java as your first programming language. I have to ask why you would give yourself this advice? I know enough java to know that I dont know java...

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Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by Antoninus » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 8:46 AM UTC

Try not to let life interfere too much with your self-care habits but remember its ok if it does.

Take time to read and write. (things that aren't code)

Be nicer to people and be there for your friends and family.

Business is about relationships, communication and serving others.

Smile.

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by schappim » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 10:38 AM UTC

baccheion wrote: post #5

Increasing dopamine (at D1/D5) in the nucleus accumbens shell increases motivation. Start taking a multivitamin stack and trying to create a startup ASAP. 401k

How does one increase dopamine (at D1/D5) in the nucleus accumbens shell?

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by slipwalker » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 12:08 PM UTC

( I'm 45 now, back into a cubicle for a huge consultancy, my working days feel like payed vacations )

don't bury all your money, time and health trying to be an I.T. entrepreneur in Brazil. Just get a cozy job and enjoy your paychecks...

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by tugberkk » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 1:13 PM UTC

- not to pursue phd, just get a masters and get a grip on research. - read more and read about your work.

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by _shadi » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 1:20 PM UTC

Don't worry too much about what will people think or say about you.

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by slipwalker » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 2:00 PM UTC

schappim wrote: post #13

baccheion wrote: post #5

Increasing dopamine (at D1/D5) in the nucleus accumbens shell increases motivation. Start taking a multivitamin stack and trying to create a startup ASAP. 401k

How does one increase dopamine (at D1/D5) in the nucleus accumbens shell?

i wonder the same....

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by jermaustin1 » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 4:14 PM UTC

rman666 wrote: post #6

Time goes by faster the older you get, so enjoy your youth. I’m 55 and while I did a lot in my 20s and 30s, I wish I did even more. Also, don’t let yourself get too far out of shape. It is much easier to maintain than it is to get back into shape if you fall out of shape. Lastly, some advice someone once told me: Ask yourself every year, Am I making 20% more than I did last year? Do I like the people I work with? And…

I should expect 20% pay raise every year? At 30, I guess I averaged that over the last 12 years I worked (well off by $1/hr from it), but I don't think it is a reasonable expectation.

What I wish I would have done sooner is invest in more alternative income streams. I spent a lot of my time creating wealth for others instead of myself. I didn't even start saving for retirement until I was 26.

So I guess that is my advice, put your money to work so that you can weather a storm.

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by marssaxman » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 5:47 PM UTC

Don't get married; you will regret it. And for heaven's sake don't get married again; you will regret that even more.

This advice may not scale.

Re: Ask HN: If you are 30+, what advice would you give to your 20-something self?

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Post by simplegeek » Mon, Oct 08, 2018, 6:33 PM UTC

Family is the most important thing, you only realise this when you get old. Respect your parents and love them (tell them you do). Most people you take for granted today in your family won't be around soon, listen to their stories and take care of them.

Kids gave me most happiness. Have them some day.

Choose who you work with very wisely. This is going to change your life most. Choose friends carefully. Once you do, never let sincere friends go away.

Learn how to read. Read a lot. Learn how to write. Write a lot. Experiment a lot. Don't be afraid to fail.

Reach out to people. This will open up new possibilities that you never thought of.

Work on your temperament. People who know how to control their nerves achieve most.

Don't take a lot of stress, it will be mostly fine.

I need to think more, interesting question :)