> how about not-tech-specific rules around data sharing transparency
Such as... a General Data Protection Regulation?
GDPR is not "tech-specific", it applies to technical solutions, yes, but also to business requirements and administration, and non-technical data collection. One non-tech consequence here is that stores are encouraged not to ask your SSID equivalent, since that exposes deeply personal information to others nearby.
> Just require details on what's shared and with whom for those seeking it
That's a big part of GDPR, actually. You're allowed to collect data, with certain rules about transparency and anonymization, and as long as there are reasonable motivators for collecting it. Within reason and with exceptions, I'm sure, but nonetheless, that's a big part of it.
> You're gonna find most people don't care anyways
I'm willing to bet few people cared about regulations on traffic safety and alcohol as well. That doesn't mean that regulations to hold bad actors responsible aren't necessary, as has been proven countless times through leaks, sometimes very large or sensitive leaks.
> And please please learn from EU mistakes and establish enforcement mechanisms.
What do you mean by this? What "mistake" has the EU made? They have enforcement mechanisms in place to target companies for violations of GDPR. It will take time to work out the details and establish case law, but I don't see anyway around that. Even if you introduce "small" regulations, companies will fight the charges or fines that you bring to establish precedent.
> If we all have to hire lawyers and/or compliance assistance, then the first step is too large.
You all don't. Larger corporations probably do, but that's unavoidable. GDPR was announced something like two years before implementation, and published in a lot of different ways beforehand. There were compliance consultants, yes, but there were also PSAs, education, advertisement, easy-to-read summaries and tons and tons of material to read up on.
> heavy-handed government regulations on the internet bring more bad than good
The view of pre-GDPR internet as something free of regulation, or free from government involvement, or as nothing but a land of milk and honey seems to me like a pretty severe case of rose-tinted glasses, especially if we're talking the last 10-15 years.
There have been a lot of issues with the internet, even without mentioning all the severe privacy breaches, or breaches that are a concern for national security.