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I also hate how all the social media apps want to grab your address book to "see who else you know on here". They all do it.
At least on recent Android you can deny it. The UI doesn't support it and you need to resort to hacks such as https://whatsappwithoutcontact.com/
With these upcoming incarnations I'm not sure I want to use it, and I'll be looking for a simple IM application which just charges a simple fee for service.