Thanks for your honest truth, most people shy away from. Please have a look at the subject of "Mindfulness". I learnt it myself from the similar titled book from Joseph Goldstein.
Wishing you a fulfilling journey.
Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
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Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#92Right. You have an extremely common illness and like all extremely common illnesses you should go and see a doctor. Even better if you can bypass some crap and go straight to a psychiatrist. You're not broken. You're not mentally damaged. You're ill.
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#93Earlier quoted context omitted.
>You could try microdosing LSD for the low-level depression. Thanks for this. CBD oil and psilocybin microdosing works pretty well for me, though there is a tendency for me to not find any immediate effect to the psilocybin and as such it's not something I do often enough. The CBD oil is more pronounced, though.
How do you feel about the travelling part?
>How do you feel about the travelling part?
Honestly, scared that I'll have time away from work. It's becoming more clear to me that I have a dysfunctional relationship with my work, and some deep-rooted money issues (despite having enough to live on and money saved up).
Finding the root cause of my perceived issues is a priority, there's only so much I can repair (or improve, to be less weasel word-y) myself without locating and addressing the thing(s) that cause my issue(s).
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#94Life is relationships. Put most of your work into those and your mood should improve.
I don't know about most of your work. That's time not spent on creative pursuits, usually (there are exceptions to this) and relationships can drain you in a different way. I tend to get a lot more out of creative pursuits, personally. But both are good.
Finding the right people to pursue creative ambitions with > doing it on your own
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#95Life is relationships. Put most of your work into those and your mood should improve.
I've found meaningful work to be far more beneficial to my mood. I don't control what other people do and many a times their illogical decisions and the ensuing drama are not a pleasant experience.
Yeah you need to find better people
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#96> At 35, I was divorced and had to start from scratch. That seems to be the root of the problem. Do you have children?
I thought so too. But didn’t want to post because it is a total guess.
Breaking and ending a once loving, intimate and totally absorbing relationship is one of the hardest things for a human to endure. The end of anything is always sad, the end of relationships most of all.
But again, we are guessing. Life’s multifactorial and single issues often connect, catalyse and exaggerate what the mind imagines to be a single stress.
Wish the OP all the best.
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#97Seek Jesus with all your heart, and you will find peace and purpose.
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#98I'm 34 and have just recently pulled myself out of a 10-year phase of minor depression. Rational control is great and is something I often make use of to control the stress and reduce toxicity in my life, but wresting control of your emotional state and fueling your motivation is arguably far more important.
Like you, I've started to take exercise more seriously and also watching my diet a bit more than usual. This seems to help immensely. If you're anything like me, I tend to overthink too many things and I've found that to be a huge obstacle in trying to ward away depression, so I've put some focus on improving various aspects of my life rather than ruminating over random thoughts in my head.
Meeting new people and expanding your circle of friends seems to be a good way to keep your mental health in check as the human interaction doubles as an emotional support system.
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#99This plan worked for this dude, worth a shot :P
https://np.reddit.com/r/casualiama/comments/2lbqym/traveled_...
Re: Ask HN: I'm 40 this year, and have depression. Any words of wisdom?
#100Earlier quoted context omitted.
Like many of the other commenters, my point was that labeling yourself as broken and assuming the victim mindset is what's unhelpful. Everyone has issues, literally everyone and understanding that it's normal and not what defines you is what's important. This allows you to acknowledge, embrace, and seek help if needed.
>my point was that labeling yourself as broken and assuming the victim mindset is what's unhelpful. For clarity, and for my own benefit of writing it down -- I don't have a victim mentality, at least there's no perception of one. I'm certainly not out to blame anyone or create drama. The background anhedonia/depression has normalised it, certainly -- my circle of friends is small and carefully selected, so I don't ha…
Perfect normality is one of the stranger outliers humanity exhibits.