Long-term: dating/relationships. I'm very outgoing, but I have love shyness or something like that. I basically don't date. I find the entire thing extremely stressful and unbearable. I've always been alone. Short-term: not much! I recently dropped everything and moved to the other side of the globe (Japan) on a student visa. I'm studying a very interesting language and culture and making friends with people from all…
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#42Re: Ask HN: What do you struggle with?
#43I've been struggling with adulthood ever since turning 30 and starting a family. I have this image in my head of what life after 30 looks like from seeing my parents and all their friends doing basically the same thing as each other. It's not a life I want for myself, but every decision I make pushes me further and further in that direction. My mind has been programmed to think and act in a way that eventually lands…
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#44I make I try to get at least one Git commit every day, but my job is pretty draining, so that doesn't happen. And sometimes all my projects get blocked on hard stuff that I don't have the energy to solve. For all I know, I might look alright on paper. I've co-authored a paper in a respectable journal, written a few Rails apps, a few desktop apps, and a crappy interpreter for an old language - which doesn't really use…
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#45Sleep. Specifically, going to bed early enough regularly. Feels like my day has 24.5 hours, so each day shifts back by 30 minutes
http://slatestarcodex.com/2018/07/10/melatonin-much-more-tha...
if you scroll towards the bottom it talks about how you can use melatonin to deal with a weird sleep cycle like this.
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#46Re: Ask HN: What do you struggle with?
#47Having enough time to do things. After you have a kid, you can only have one hobby. After you have two kids, it seems you can only have one hobby once in a blue moon.
I sleep five hours a night and get up at 4 to start work so that i can spend the day with my family and not feel guilty about spending a measly one hour hobby coding or writing (and it kills me to choose)
For the record, love my kids, wouldn't change a thing. I just wish I didn't need those five hours sleep
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#48I've taken classes, done simple stuff, talk about it with friends who are coders, but I just can't seem to get a job.
I've tried making a move to a programmer position in my last two jobs, but I either blow the interview, or my department holds me back cause they need me, or in my current job they tell me that they only hire level 3 engineers...
I can't find junior software engineer positions that would even interview me and it's become a thing that all I'll be good for is application support, no matter how much knowledge I show about programming and logic
edit: Thanks for the down vote!
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#49I'm like the smartest guy in the world, and I can't believe how mediocre everyone else is.
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#50I struggle with scaling up my business. I have been working from home for the past 10 years and I have websites that generate ok money ($100K/y). My struggle is I just can't get myself to hire my first full time employee. I tried it many years ago but after facing the headache of hiring, dealing with attrition, training, etc, it took away all my focus from work. I feel management is a skill I just don't have. Also wo…
Get a partner who is just as invested as you (deferred equity over a number of years works well) and lean on them for some of the management functions.
This advice gets thrown around a lot, and while it's helpful as an option to consider, it often doesn't solve the posed issue.