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People start hating their jobs at 35

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Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by stephengillie »

tribesman wrote: post #3

Are most corruption charges in developing countries are well on people over 30? Just curious, i don't have the data. Hypothesis is that, once people hate their job, they might want to acquire money instantly and quit. I know this is a sensitive topic but i just want a some facts because here people seem to trust young people less for some reason, i don't know why.

It's the "How can I quit my job today" mindset. Each person has a different subset of options, based on their socioeconomic state:

- Concieve a child and carry to term, then raise.

- Start your own business.

- Sell your house and live on the street / forest.

- Become a farmer.

- Win a lottery / Bitcoin bubble / IPO skyrocket / other windfall.

- Move in with your parents / children.

- Commit crimes.

- Create pornography (enter a new industry).

- Start an online store / list items on eBay or Amazon.

- Move to Alaska, build a cabin, and live off the land.

Etc.

Sometimes a person will find themselves fixated on the most realistic option for their scenario, turning one of these into a plan of action, discussing with coworkers, and trying to make it even more realistic.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by badpun »

For me it was at 24, about 2 years after I started working. The first two years were exciting vanity-filled ride, because I was proving that to myself and others that I was really capable. I got quickly promoted to a project manager role (that was in a time and organization where PMs weren't just bureucrats, the role was exciting). Delivering my first project was hell of a ride (coffee and red-bull powered one), but after that, I saw that I'm just going to have to repeat that experience for the next 40 years. I gave my notice soon afterwards, and since then I look for jobs with best salary to effort ratio. Also, there are some kinds of jobs (management, enterprise architect), that are so annoying that I don't know how much I would have to be paid to do them again.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by konart »

grecy wrote: post #4

I can't stress this enough - if you're not happy with life, and you feel like you aren't moving closer to your goals and dreams, make a change!!! I realized that sitting at my desk for 30 years to pay for a house was not what I wanted to do, so I quit my job and have been driving around Africa for 2 years[1]. I dreamed for years of being a travel writer and photographer, and I am making that dream come true! I now wr…

Sounds nice, but what about your family? Relatives that might need your attention?

I love examples like this one, but unfortunatelly they can't be applied to a general guy.

Though I have to agree that you have to go for a change one way or the other. Some people can do this almost right now, some will have to do some kind of preparations which can take quite some time too.

PS: not to metion that economical\social conditions can be an issue too.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by germinalphrase »

grecy wrote: post #4

I can't stress this enough - if you're not happy with life, and you feel like you aren't moving closer to your goals and dreams, make a change!!! I realized that sitting at my desk for 30 years to pay for a house was not what I wanted to do, so I quit my job and have been driving around Africa for 2 years[1]. I dreamed for years of being a travel writer and photographer, and I am making that dream come true! I now wr…

Do you worry about coming out of the other end of these travels - by choice or circumstance - and not having the stability/financial cushion that maintaining a steady job would have afforded you?

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by bigcostooge »

mrhappyunhappy wrote: post #7

35 is probably the age where you have accepted the fact that you are just a cog in the machine, and the output will benefit someone other than yourself. For years leading up to it you already know youre just trading your life's precious hours away for money - which seems to have less and less purchasing power by the year. Once you realize the job is just a means of keeping yourself going, the perpetual cycle dawns on…

I’ve hit this realization at 30. But exactly this.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by Nursie »

At the age of 34 I opted out of having 'a job', set up a company of my own and now contract and consult. I change who I'm working for every few months to a year.

I don't (often) get that bored. There isn't time for the cynicism to develop, I feel like my skills are valued, I bring home a ton more cash, and if I dislike the way my client operates or tries to put controls on my working patterns, I walk.

I know I am extraordinarily privileged, and I don't know how long this can last, but six years have passed and I feel better than ever about my career. Or my lack of it.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by soneca »

grecy wrote: post #4

I can't stress this enough - if you're not happy with life, and you feel like you aren't moving closer to your goals and dreams, make a change!!! I realized that sitting at my desk for 30 years to pay for a house was not what I wanted to do, so I quit my job and have been driving around Africa for 2 years[1]. I dreamed for years of being a travel writer and photographer, and I am making that dream come true! I now wr…

I agree with your advice!

But I want to remind that a life-changing decision does not need to involve changing continents and continuous traveling. It can be just a career change. Not all 40-hours workweeks are the same.

I started my career in the social sector, doing fundraising for NGOs. Then, after 6 years, I quit to found my own startup. 2 years between a couple of tries that failed. Then I went to work in Marketing at a startup for another 2 years. Then I quit to study software development fulltime, so for the last year, I am a frontend developer.

Each of these changes came as soon as I realized I was not happy with my job/field. Each of them made me happier. But all of them were still 40 hours of work while living with my family or wife.

Re: People start hating their jobs at 35

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Post by mrhappyunhappy »

Nursie wrote: post #16

At the age of 34 I opted out of having 'a job', set up a company of my own and now contract and consult. I change who I'm working for every few months to a year. I don't (often) get that bored. There isn't time for the cynicism to develop, I feel like my skills are valued, I bring home a ton more cash, and if I dislike the way my client operates or tries to put controls on my working patterns, I walk. I know I am ext…

What kind of consulting if you don't mind me asking?
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