Congrats! Now pay it forward by finding someone feeling blue near you and helping them out.
Given the responses here I think he has accomplished this already. Plus, there is no need to put more pressure on him. :)
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#112Earlier quoted context omitted.
I'm curious, how did you address the anger and rage?
Someone suggested to me that my anger was inwardly focused and that had a direct causative effect on my depression. That rang true for me. So my first work on that was to get my anger directed in an outward fashion. At first, that entailed literally breaking stuff, chopping wood, climbing steep hills on my bike until it hurt, just get that energy going in the right direction. Get it out in the moment instead of bottl…
Thank you for your generous reply.
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#113Good to hear. Keep in mind, this part is true for literally everyone: > Overall, I'm not exactly where I want to be
Respectfully, I suggest avoiding saying this kind of thing to someone who may still be recovering from depression. There's a tendency to want to make what they are going through relatable, but that risks minimizing the severity of what they may be dealing with. Imagine having lost a family member and hearing from someone, "well, everyone loses things". There's orders of magnitude difference. I just know from experien…
I understand. My point is that you never reach a perfect place because your goal line keeps shifting. It's easy to undercut your view of your own progress by noting you aren't where you want to be. There is only ever "in progress," and that's OK.
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#114“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.” — Abraham Joshua Heschel Words I am always reminded of whenever I try to be too clever on the internet. Glad you're doing better.
>“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.”
It's the function of their risk profile. Young want to maximize payoff which is possible through intelligence, old ones want to reduce their risk so are subject to soceity's kindness.
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#115“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.” — Abraham Joshua Heschel Words I am always reminded of whenever I try to be too clever on the internet. Glad you're doing better.
>“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.” It's the function of their risk profile. Young want to maximize payoff which is possible through intelligence, old ones want to reduce their risk so are subject to soceity's kindness.
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#116I am not sure if you'd consider a life change, but if you are interested in moving to US, please also try that. Pay is better here, and life is probably better too. Being among like-minded people would help you reach where you want to be.
> life is probably better too
What a fucked up assumption. Pay for skilled jobs is way higher in the US than almost anywhere else apart from maybe Switzerland or Norway, but quality of life is way more complicated than that.
Not least because of the decent healthcare, paid time off, and social protections in France.
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#117>...and started working out I can't emphasize enough how much this helps. If anyone is suffering from depressions, anxiety and overthinking -- consider starting working out. It will make wonders to your mood. I'm not saying that it will fix your suffering entirely, because it typically requires a mental effort as well. But it will make your life noticeably more enjoyable.
All the evidence we have tells us that people exercise because their illness has reduced. We know that exercise has minimal benefits as a treatment for depression. We should be pushing people towards evidence based treatments, not suggesting they spend considerabe effort doing something that probably won't work, and will increase their negative feelings when they fail.
What evidence is that?
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#118Is it really that competitive these days after uni when you have "no experience" and are a junior dev? I assume you have a top 10% GPA? I always hear in the bay area you get $150,000 straight out of uni, at least when you're from Stanford etc. Is this not the case anymore? Edit: Ok, I see you're in France. Then 33k€ is rather reasonable. There don't really exist exciting software companies in France or Germany, excep…
French here. 33k is fairly decent in Paris, with no degree and no experience. Outside of Paris, it's really good. It's above the average for a top degree in a top school.
I really can't see how someone would live with 33k in Paris (before taxes).
According to you what is a good salaries grid ?
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#119For everyone here on the running bandwagon, I would like to add my 2 cents. I generally do not encourage people to exercise, at least not like I once did. Exercise I think is one of those things where discussion never is anything like the real thing. This discourages a lot of people. I would generally recommend something like social soccer, since there is a more balanced support structure imho. I used to easily run a…
I know you mean well, but this is not good advice. The benefits of exercise are so vast and varied, and study after study has confirmed not only the physical benefits, but the mental benefits as well. To compare it to listening to music or some other "engaging pursuits" is just completely wrong. Is it hard to start exercising? Sure. I imagine it's hard to do a lot of things initially, especially when someone is depre…
You recommend soccer but discourage running because it's competitive?
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#120“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.” — Abraham Joshua Heschel Words I am always reminded of whenever I try to be too clever on the internet. Glad you're doing better.
>“When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.” It's the function of their risk profile. Young want to maximize payoff which is possible through intelligence, old ones want to reduce their risk so are subject to soceity's kindness.
You seem very intelligent