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I'd stop using Uber because you can't afford it and I would talk to my landlord to get them to give you better terms to break the lease since you clearly can't afford that either. Offer them to help find another tenant or try to get them to allow you to leave without another tenant lined up because they will end up with a renter in default, which will make it harder for them to get rid of you and will likely lose the…
But once I was in situation where I had to move but had a lease. I talked with my apartment complex's office. They told me I can give 30 days notice to move out and then they will start showing my apartment immediately. I ll have to continue to pay rent until someone moves in. I paid one month's rent but then someone moved in within a week and they issued me partial refund for that month.
So this might be an option.
Also look for a roommate, to decrease your fixed costs without breaking the lease. This could give you some ideas too: https://andrewhy.de/how-to-live-comfortably-on-36-a-month-fo...
Buy a second hand bicycle, and ditch uber... and, as soon as you can afford, go see a doctor !
Personally I think you need financial guidance more than anything else. I don't think you're in tune with your reality.
One of my friend was in your shoes. After he got fired from the startup where he did lots of hard work without payoff. He just lost his faith in the system and sold off everything, moved to China. Now he gives talks in local Chinese and Indian conferences shillings consultancy for companies. He meets a lot of Chinese and Indians and now he has saved a lot of money to retire even by American standards. One thing we do…
> One thing we don't recognize is that we might be more valualed in a country where we weren't born. That's not quite true. Asians often think highly of Westerners for some reasons.
You planned up on saving money by taking a $2k/month rental? You just started your career. People start their career by co-habitating with several of their colleagues. The first step is to stop haemorrhaging cash. Check your local renting laws. If it allows you to stay for a few months before the law kick you out, then stop paying rent. Take a side job (preferably night job) to make some cash to survive. Keep looking…
I'm sorry your situation turned out poorly but it is far from grim. You have the power and ability to fix it. Do you have the motivation as well?
As has been said before: if you have family and are on good terms, don't wait any longer to ask for help. Everyone gets into shitty situations due to no fault of their own at one time or another, makes mistakes and needs to start over. That's one thing families are for: a safety net, a safe place. If you have none, get in touch with your closest friends. If you have none (like zero), search for a local depression self-help group and go to a meeting. People there will understand what you're going through and attempt to help you in getting your affairs in order. Seriously. It sounds unappealing, I know, but it works if you have no one else.
Also, get a used bike. Get used do riding it for extended periods of time. You have time, not money, remember. Plus, you'll get exercise this way, which is something that helps keep depression at bay. I realize that American suburbs are not the ideal place to get around in one but it can be done. If you're completely opposed to this, Google for ride-sharing or carpooling offers in your area.
After that, with the help of family, friends or empathetic people, either move back home, to a much smaller apartment, or join someone as their roommate. If you're truly paralyzed by depression, try to get a job (for the time being) that just requires simple tasks of you, showing up and doing easy work, like a local shop clerk, that's closest to your apartment. Avoid fast food jobs, they are soul-crushing. Adjust your living conditions to a student level.
If you can, try to volunteer for an open source project. It does not generate money but you get to interact with people, learn new things, success may lift your spirits and you have actual public work to refer to when applying for a coding job later.
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> One thing we don't recognize is that we might be more valualed in a country where we weren't born. That's not quite true. Asians often think highly of Westerners for some reasons.
Great, send the losers to Asia.
You might want to get in touch with career office of the school where you got your CS degree as they may have resources that are useful.
Identify the technology that is most in line with your interests and the jobs to which you are applying and become proficient or an expert in it, preferably making something along the way that can be shown, demonstrated, or discussed.