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Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by amelius »

chongli wrote: post #27
luckman212 wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

> in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you

Speaking about chemistry ... I'm hoping for an app that can use pheromones to match people. Or genotyping, or both (I suppose pheromones correlate with DNA somehow). Am I the only one who finds smell most important?

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by IMTDb »

chongli wrote: post #27
luckman212 wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

Then 60 sec is probably really not enough to feel that.

Basically, 60 seconds give you just enough time to really see if the guy/girl at the other end of the screen is cute enough for your standards. What those guys are saying is: "don't loose a whole date on someone who use a photoshopped profile pic"

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by charlesdm »

IMTDb wrote: post #32
chongli wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

Then 60 sec is probably really not enough to feel that. Basically, 60 seconds give you just enough time to really see if the guy/girl at the other end of the screen is cute enough for your standards. What those guys are saying is: "don't loose a whole date on someone who use a photoshopped profile pic"

Have you ever done speed dating? I have once, and since you're testing chemistry, I don't see how this would work online.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by InitialLastName »

personlurking wrote: post #30
chongli wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

Here's my idea for an AI-based speed dating site/app. You fill in the basics (about you and your preferences), plus 5 things that are important to you in life, plus 1-2 things you want to absolutely avoid (ex, smokers), your availability and that's it. In the background, the AI matches you and sets you up for a quick coffee date at a location that's not far from either person. Twist: every single person actively look…

That leaves you essentially only dating people who are within ~10 minutes of you at some point. Anything more would be a big time sacrifice- a 5 minute coffee turns into 15 minutes with a 5 minute commute. If that person ghosts (as online daters will know happens ALL THE TIME) or is suddenly unavailable, or 5 minutes late or whatever, you're wasting extra time on someone you've never met and might never met.

As an example, I haven't been actively dating in a bit, but when I last was it was in a big city with lots of public transit, and my radius was ~10 miles. If I started talking to someone I liked it was no problem for us to work out a time to meet, but I was constantly interacting with people who were never within "random meetup" distance of me.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by rch »

456hdsaq234g wrote: post #21

Folks are getting laid for free via Tinder and others. Why would anyone pay $10/month for a smaller pool of candidates?

How about paying $100/month for an even smaller pool of candidates, who can afford $100 and don't plan to be on the site for years?

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by lev99 »

456hdsaq234g wrote: post #21

Folks are getting laid for free via Tinder and others. Why would anyone pay $10/month for a smaller pool of candidates?

A lot of people pay for online dating services. It's about a $600M/yr market in the US[0].

Answering why is also important, but it's incorrect to assume online dating isn't a thriving market.

https://www.statista.com/outlook/372/109/online-dating/unite...

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by lev99 »

fsargent wrote: post #26

The problem with dating isn't lack of meeting people, it's lack of heuristics. Speed dating just makes it faster to judge, but it doesn't actually do any work for you. One of the big benefits to OkCupid is that the heuristics are relatively good. Improve on that, and you're golden.

It's called speed dating, but it's actually much slower per decision than popular places like Tinder and Bumble. I imagine ML can be built to decide who should talk to each other. (push a button, wait in a queue, ML decides who to pair up)

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by charlesdm »

draugadrotten wrote: post #28
fsargent wrote: post #26

The problem with dating isn't lack of meeting people, it's lack of heuristics. Speed dating just makes it faster to judge, but it doesn't actually do any work for you. One of the big benefits to OkCupid is that the heuristics are relatively good. Improve on that, and you're golden.

one of the problems with good heuristics is that almost all the desire is sent towards the 9's and 10's. Yet obviously most of the site users are 8 or less. So the 9-10s gets swamped, and leave early. The remaining users gets bored because nobody replies. The problem here is not that heuristics of finding "your best match" is bad. It is quite easy to figure out who is attractive and matches you. The problem is that m…

Not the dating market, just the online dating market

People date up and down all the time, and attraction isn't just limited to good looks. People are attracted to different things in an individual (good looks, ability, wealth, intellect, power or status, etc) -- it's just that those don't always show well on dating profiles. They are much easier to spot in the real world.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by xor1 »

I really like this concept OP. I think your biggest non-technical hurdle is going to be dealing with the classic issue of there simply being significantly less women than men. I'm curious to know how you plan to approach that after you introduce a proper business model.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Post by [deleted] »

charlesdm wrote: post #38
draugadrotten wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

one of the problems with good heuristics is that almost all the desire is sent towards the 9's and 10's. Yet obviously most of the site users are 8 or less. So the 9-10s gets swamped, and leave early. The remaining users gets bored because nobody replies. The problem here is not that heuristics of finding "your best match" is bad. It is quite easy to figure out who is attractive and matches you. The problem is that m…

Not the dating market, just the online dating market People date up and down all the time, and attraction isn't just limited to good looks. People are attracted to different things in an individual (good looks, ability, wealth, intellect, power or status, etc) -- it's just that those don't always show well on dating profiles. They are much easier to spot in the real world.

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