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Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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Folks are getting laid for free via Tinder and others. Why would anyone pay $10/month for a smaller pool of candidates?

Maybe not everyone wants to get laid.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe not everyone wants to get laid.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

Hmm, well the tag line is "Quality interactions, real relationships" so I assumed that it wasn't competing with Tinder.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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The problem with dating isn't lack of meeting people, it's lack of heuristics. Speed dating just makes it faster to judge, but it doesn't actually do any work for you. One of the big benefits to OkCupid is that the heuristics are relatively good. Improve on that, and you're golden.

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post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe not everyone wants to get laid.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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The problem with dating isn't lack of meeting people, it's lack of heuristics. Speed dating just makes it faster to judge, but it doesn't actually do any work for you. One of the big benefits to OkCupid is that the heuristics are relatively good. Improve on that, and you're golden.

one of the problems with good heuristics is that almost all the desire is sent towards the 9's and 10's. Yet obviously most of the site users are 8 or less. So the 9-10s gets swamped, and leave early. The remaining users gets bored because nobody replies.

The problem here is not that heuristics of finding "your best match" is bad. It is quite easy to figure out who is attractive and matches you. The problem is that most people wants to trade up, and few people (on dating sites) have the desire to end up with someone their own score. Fewer yet wants to date someone less attractive. Hence the dating market ends up being a sort mechanism which works poorly because none of the sorted numbers wants to be where they are.

OkCupid had some great blog articles about the statistics behind this unbalanced matching phenomenon. Read them.

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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it's not going to fly. I think the problem of this kind of ideas is that dating is actually a by product of social interactions, not suitable for engineering.

It may not fly or it may rocket! Either way, encouragement costs nothing. I wish them all the success. Good luck!

Re: Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

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post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe, but anyone who would elect to use a "speed dating" app probably does.

The point of speed dating is to meet a lot of people quickly in the hope that you'll find someone who has chemistry with you. It's about personality, not sex.

Here's my idea for an AI-based speed dating site/app. You fill in the basics (about you and your preferences), plus 5 things that are important to you in life, plus 1-2 things you want to absolutely avoid (ex, smokers), your availability and that's it.

In the background, the AI matches you and sets you up for a quick coffee date at a location that's not far from either person. Twist: every single person actively looking for a relationship in each particular city must be on the site (aside from self-reporting, I haven't figured out how this will be done).

Essentially, you don't peruse the app, you just receive when & where notifications and then go have a 5-minute coffee to see if you have chemistry, which no current app can actually tell you.

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