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How important it is to be proactive about career management - don't always take the easy path, even if it pays well. Doctors are exorbitantly overpaid relative to the value they provide. How little money matters once you have a few hundred K.
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For me I have learned that there comes a point when you need to work differently in order to protect your health and family well being. Big salaries are great, but when the price for that is massive amounts of overtime that takes you away from your family it just isn't worth it. Now I work for myself and I love it. Hobbies are vitally important to keeping you happy and healthy, don't neglect them. When you get a spee…
As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD at a fairly young age, my parents were extremely relieved, and I'm extremely happy that I was able to learn how to manage it from a young age. There are days where it's really hard, and there are absolutely days that I forget my medicine and basically the entire day is shot, but in all honesty I really truly believe that I owe a good portion of what I have to the fact that I hav…
We always suspected ADHD and now that we have the confirmation we can deal with it properly.
On the flip side his IQ is 140 (SB5 test) which is nice, but also adds an extra burden on to how to manage his condition. Luckily he loves coding and building things - but we have to always be looking for something new and stimulating for him to do.
We've been lucky to get him accepted in to a number of schemes to help him manage his condition and harness his abilities. He's only eight so its early days for good quality intervention and help.
Of course the bullying is inevitable. Kids at his school call him autistic, plus he has two different coloured eyes which just makes him more of a target. Luckily his younger sister is a bruiser and sticks up for him.
Turn off the TV. Turn off all social media. Turn off any negative influences. Eat as healthy as you possibly can. Exercise, yoga, tai chi, or anything that gets you moving. Enjoy the benefits of all the time you thought you didn't have while having really good mental power because of your healthy diet and exercise. Live a good life.
I am really curious how you did that. The negativity on social media and politics today is really affecting my mental health and I don't know how to switch it off
A few days ago last year, my heart imploded. We still don't know what caused it. We don't know if it'll come back (I've had a shitty couple of months recently with the same symptoms but they went away at the end of last week), and I had major knee problems at the same time. Still working on improving my health, but coming to terms with this being a part of life rather than something I'll get over completely. If anyth…
So sorry to hear about your misfortune. How is the recovery going ?
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Any thoughts on what is effective to handle anxiety
Three meals daily, with a banana replacing breakfast No air conditioning 100 push-ups daily 100 sit-ups daily 100 squats daily Run six miles daily 1 hour Meditation Talk to 1 new person daily
Life is short, so work on things that matter. People you love can be gone tomorrow. You too - so prepare for that. You don't make friends at job, you will be fired as soon as they notice you have some family problems influencing your work. There will be no talking, no asking anything... and then your "friends" will silently agree with everything the manager does. Read more - it really helps with anything you will do.…
12 months ago, I was a married man and a well-paid and well-respected (or even celebrated) member of a team, with a clear career plan and good personal finances.
Today I'm a soon-to-be-divorced guy who's just been fired and doesn't know how he'll pay the bills in a few months. Before the redundancy I had just taken on a bigger mortgage to buy out my wife. My grandfather died in March and chances are other members of the family will go very soon.
Life can turn very quickly. A '90s Italian song went "so many years to find tranquility, stability, a honest survival - but it's all so, so fragile".
How important it is to be proactive about career management - don't always take the easy path, even if it pays well. Doctors are exorbitantly overpaid relative to the value they provide. How little money matters once you have a few hundred K.
Doctors are exorbitantly overpaid relative to the value they provide Really ?
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Much of what's said in that community is uninteresting and nonsensical. I was super interested in this "movement" for some years and joined many of those events. The trouble is, so much of it is programmers patting themselves on the back for being more "disciplined" than your average working programmer. Before Google, business listing websites competed by being the most disciplined in listing business data — they had…
So how do you go about it? I've only been in this field for about 18 months and I'm so overwhelmed by all these conflicting ideas and have no idea where to turn. Do you have any advice for juniors on how to internalise good engineering principles and how to avoid dogma?
Imagine a future co-worker coming in to fix a bug in your code - that person should ideally be able to say, aha, write a fix, and afterwards nobody can tell you didn't do it yourself.
If an abstraction makes things easier to understand, do it. If it doesn't, don't. Sometimes an extra test can make something easier to understand or modify, or handling more edge cases can make it the code more robust against future uses. But it's always a trade-off: less code is plainly easier to understand.
With that yardstick, lots of hyped tech just isn't good enough, advice given goes plainly against understandability or APIs that may look nice on paper result in hard-to-understand code full of accidental complexity. This applies to a lot of software method thinking too - does it result in me understanding the use cases better or in more understandable code? If not, don't waste time doing it.
By the way, writing code that's easy to understand and APIs that result in usage of said APIs being easy to understand is really hard. I spend a fair deal of my time rewriting code that I'm not comfortable with because it's too hard to understand. If you practice that, I think you might end up as an excellent programmer. Understandability extends to user interfaces and system design - a beautiful program that requires its users to jump through hoops to get everyday tasks done is an abomination in my book.
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As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD at a fairly young age, my parents were extremely relieved, and I'm extremely happy that I was able to learn how to manage it from a young age. There are days where it's really hard, and there are absolutely days that I forget my medicine and basically the entire day is shot, but in all honesty I really truly believe that I owe a good portion of what I have to the fact that I hav…
For me it answered so many questions. His lack of attention, impulsiveness and constant wriggling was stressful for us, but also made people think he was just badly behaved. His scout troop threatened to throw him out at one point and he has been sent home from birthday parties and summer camps. We always suspected ADHD and now that we have the confirmation we can deal with it properly. On the flip side his IQ is 140…
* Bumbling a tech interview can still bowl me over and make me feel inadequate, even though I've been in tech for 15 years.
* International travel is life-changing. Seeing the world outside of my American bubble for the first time a few months ago altered me in a way I didn't think possible.
* Not all titles mean something.
* Do things for the sake of doing them, not because there is an end goal.
* Time is more important than money (but pay off your debt).
* Words and intent matter.