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Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
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Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#82Let me begin by saying that I FEEL anti-social, introvert with a need for solitude to re-charge, and as a monkey see-monkey do-personality with minimal repertoire, when it comes to social navigation, and overly serious in all circumstances containing 20% people, I don't know. Except, when I'm slightly inebriated.
When I got my first Mac, an SE/30, back in 1992, it came with a Meyers Briggs Type Indicator program. The result placed me barely inside "introvert", right next to the dividing line between extrovert and introvert.
(http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-bas... for details on what and how.)
I have retaken the test 3 times since then, and twice experienced extrovert/introvert result as "extrovert", barely inside extrovert. For comparisons the other three parts of the test (placement as thinking or feeling, sensing or intuition and judging or perceiving) have remained the same over the years.
Since the questions in the test as well as calculating result follow strict rules, I am led to conclude that the two times I tested "extrovert" were periods of happiness and security in my life. Just enough endorfin and dopamin juice in my brain to lead me to evaluate my own social skills and desire for social interaction slightly more positive than normally. (I wasn't drunk during these tests... :-D )
What say ye? Are we introvert and extrovert from brain chemistry and previous programming? Can we change? Should we change? Or just make the most of it, rather than compete with those, who've had their whole life to learn how to navigate by the laws of extrovertism...?
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#83You'd be surprised how many of us really are introverts. I talk about this subject with successful people quite often at conferences like TED, because it's so difficult and painful for me to be social even for a few hours a day at these events. Almost everyone says the same thing, "Oh no. I'm an introvert. This is exhausting to me. I can't wait to get back to my room. But I can keep it up for a couple necessary hours…
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Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#84Earlier quoted context omitted.
To fake being an extravert is not that difficult when you've mastered the skill of meaningless chit chat. However, I've noticed that to acquire that skill you need an active interest in the person you're communicating with. I've noticed that people with a natural interest in other people seem to be perceived as extraverts. To learn that interest in other people can be a challenging task and after twenty years of prac…
I always assume that everyone I meet has at least one interesting story to tell. Then I set myself a task to get them to tell it to me.
I think the difference between making a friend and making an acquaintance is sharing stories. Emphasis added in italics below
> At the Jefferson Boulevard entrance to the campus, the guard at the gatehouse broke into a smile upon hearing Haden’s name. The guard, Eric Johnson, stepped out from his kiosk and explained that in his early 20s, he worked for a messenger service. One day he completed a downtown delivery to Haden, who stopped to converse with him for a few minutes.
With the exception of his time at Oxford, Haden has spent his entire adult life as the guy everybody knows as soon as he walks into the room. His friends say Haden’s gift is that he leaves knowing everybody else’s stories.
"He has such compassion and humility," said J. K. McKay, who caught Haden’s passes at Bishop Amat High in La Puente, Calif., east of Los Angeles, and at U.S.C., where they were coached by McKay’s father, John.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/23/sports/23haden.html?_r=1&#...
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#85You'd be surprised how many of us really are introverts. I talk about this subject with successful people quite often at conferences like TED, because it's so difficult and painful for me to be social even for a few hours a day at these events. Almost everyone says the same thing, "Oh no. I'm an introvert. This is exhausting to me. I can't wait to get back to my room. But I can keep it up for a couple necessary hours…
To fake being an extravert is not that difficult when you've mastered the skill of meaningless chit chat. However, I've noticed that to acquire that skill you need an active interest in the person you're communicating with. I've noticed that people with a natural interest in other people seem to be perceived as extraverts. To learn that interest in other people can be a challenging task and after twenty years of prac…
In his book, "What Got You Here Won't Get You There", Marshall Goldsmith says that everyone has the capacity to be like Bill Clinton. Bill Clinton is a legendary communicator who makes anyone feel like they are the most important person in the room[1]. When are we like Bill Clinton? When we want to make our best possible impression - first date, job interview. The difference is Bill Clinton does this all day long, with everyone. Extraordinary energy.
[1] But on Tuesday, Obama could not praise his one-time rival too warmly, jokingly recounting how Clinton's famous schmoozing skills had persuaded him to attend.
"I think everyone knows what it's like when Bill Clinton asks you to make a commitment," Obama said.
"He looks you in the eye, he feels your pain, he makes you feel like you're the only person in the room. What could I say? I was vulnerable, just like all of you have been vulnerable, to his charms."
http://www.soundanalarm.net/BillClintonWorldSaviour2009.html
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#86In some situations is better (more safe) to be an introvert. In certain job contexts, with a lot of competition and gossip going around, is better to tell the other people the least amount of information about any weak point that you have. Well, they are friends or enemies?
I don't know if I am an introvert people, I think I should talk loudly and speak a lot in the right context, but I think there are my sharps in this swimming pool trying to get some bite.
I think I would enjoy a lot at a party with hundreds or thousand of introvert people, they are a lot more preferable to those that never listen, never stop talking, never thing before speaking and are motivated to propagate any new gossip aimed to laugh down someone.
Perhaps there are not introvert people, only people not in the right context and that are used to take it slowly when making new connections.
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#87while I was driving my car this morning I felt like to howl as a wolf full of energy, and the second thought was selling the sound (about ten dollars) to a small group of people. But I think that sound is not enough to convey the experience of vigour, it should be mixed with some music or strange sound. My question is: have you ever bought some sound that is suppose to activate your mental state beyong music?
Well, in case you want to hear a wolf hawk here is one http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbCh_Stg2os but that was not me today.
In case you wonder what has this to do with the OP, the you are submitting too fast is the answer, sorry to be out of context here.
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#88I don't know but just remember you still need a minimum level of interaction to stay positive. I think introverts are less sensitive to loneliness but it can still cause depression, they just don't notice until it's too late like a frog in boiling water. If you're feeling down, forget your damning logical analysis of your life's accomplishments and just go meet some friends. Works like magic.
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#89Let me begin by saying that I FEEL anti-social, introvert with a need for solitude to re-charge, and as a monkey see-monkey do-personality with minimal repertoire, when it comes to social navigation, and overly serious in all circumstances containing 20% people, I don't know. Except, when I'm slightly inebriated. When I got my first Mac, an SE/30, back in 1992, it came with a Meyers Briggs Type Indicator program. The…
Or maybe I am an AMBIVERT - someone shifting between Extro and Intro. Being new to the term it does sound alluring, but kind of defies the whole purpose of placement...
But comparing to my biorhythms, which I have 16 years of experience with, it could seem there is a correspondence to the placement of my emotional highs and lows - high emotional curve plus high mental curve gives me the courage to stand in a crowd and feel comfortable (without the drained feeling afterwards). Whereas low emotional curve almost always spells Introvert.
Hmmm... more thoughts to receive.
Re: Ask HN: Is being an introvert okay?
#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
First: >Go up to a woman that you feel drawn to and stand there and say "I have to say. I'm very nervous to talk to you but I had to walk over and say hi." Please don't. That is, unless you have material after this line, which is unlikely unless you are already skilled in chatting up strangers. You'll create an awkward situation. She'll probably give you a forced smile, and then you'll panic because now the you've op…
"Please don't. That is, unless you have material after this line, which is unlikely unless you are already skilled in chatting up strangers.You'll create an awkward situation." Please do. Of course this is what is going to happen, I have done that too, but it is fantastic to fail, because it is the only way to improve and success. You will discover that the world doesn't end from you making mistakes, in fact you had…
Trust me please don't. they will talk to you but you don't have a chance. girls don't want to date a weirdo. just be a normal person and talk to them like a normal human being that you aren't attracted to about normal stuff. once you have established you aren't a creep THEN try to turn the charm on.