"I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me." - to me, that doesn't sound like religious rules, but a recipe for solving loneliness, treating depression, and making the world a better place.
Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
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#23I should point out that meeting people was not my motivation for getting a dog though.
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#24Does anyone have success forming friendships and relationships online? If so, how did you do it?
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#25This is a big fallacy.
Don't try to make it seem coincidental, instead make a real effort. Here 3 steps on how it works
1. Go to meetups, try out lots of new hobbies, connect with everyone on facebook immediately if you click. Do it with guys and girls. Some will be awkward, but most don't care and just say sure and connect.
2. Then keep the conversation alive a bit and meet up with them around the activity or meet up you met, ask who is going to the next meet up, be it hiking, exchanging info about cryptocurrencies, ruby on rails or whatever. You can also make chat groups on messenger with 10 people or so
3. Be a value giver, be an organizer, be the one who knows what's going on, people gravitate to people like that.
4. Doing this is not needy as long as you are a value giver. However, don't ask people all them time for value, don't be a value drawer too often.
5. Keep it lighthearted, don't become pissed if people don't join your meet up or son't reply. This is needy behaviour. After a few months, you should have 100 people in your new social circle, so what do you care if one doesn't come
As you can see this takes effort, but this is a recipe of how you can build a vibrant social circle for you within a few months time every time you come to a new city.
Most people don't do that, because they are so scared of rejection. But what do you care if 20 people don't want to connect with you when a 100 do. There are always people who want to stay for themselves, are weird or asocial.
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#28One of the things I've learned from my own experience is that meeting new people or meeting like minded people is the easy part. To make new friends you have to meet them over and over for no reason (think about it it's true for all your best friends). Many people I've met who had so much in common with me and totally clicked never became friends because we didn't have the time to meet over and over.
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#29I’d like to be better at this. My wife and I are moving from North Carolina to Sweden soon and we’re both very introverted.
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#30Why do you need to meet new people in the first place? They are not better than existing creatures around you.