Conferences, seminars, workshops. Best when it's some event that spans multiple days, that seems to engender a bit more openness and camaraderie.
Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
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Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#12Three conditions have been found to be necessary to make close friends. After learning about this, I found it to be true in my own life.
I spent a good amount of time researching how to make friends before I moved to a new city in 2010.
Would be happy to share what I've learned if anyone is interested.
"As external conditions change, it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other, said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro."
https://mobile.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-...
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#13Meetups did the job for me. Both running and attending them. Here in Auckland, New Zealand, the community is small so attending just a few meetups and making a few acquaintances can lead to a larger network with ease.
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#14One of the classic locations: Church.
For the people suggesting bars and churches:
Who do you find in gatherings where people have gotten together to escape reality in one form or the other?
I'd rather meet people that have similar (and what I consider positive and realistic) goals and outlooks or not meet at all.
I'm not bashing religion (or alcohol) either. I'm entirely ok with both in moderation but I won't be a regular at places either is the central focus because it attracts people who are not what I'm looking for.
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#15One of the things I've learned from my own experience is that meeting new people or meeting like minded people is the easy part. To make new friends you have to meet them over and over for no reason (think about it it's true for all your best friends).
Many people I've met who had so much in common with me and totally clicked never became friends because we didn't have the time to meet over and over.
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#16As a 31 year old, I have no idea. I run several meetups & it helps with some things, but you get to a point where your group becomes insulated. You only meet new, fresh people when you do different things. There's also a difference between making friends for the sake of making friends & solid, meaningful relationships like stated here.
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#17Three conditions have been found to be necessary to make close friends. After learning about this, I found it to be true in my own life. I spent a good amount of time researching how to make friends before I moved to a new city in 2010. Would be happy to share what I've learned if anyone is interested. "As external conditions change, it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s ha…
Of course, please share your experiences.
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#18Does anyone have success forming friendships and relationships online? If so, how did you do it?
Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#19One of the classic locations: Church.
For the people suggesting bars and churches: Who do you find in gatherings where people have gotten together to escape reality in one form or the other? I'd rather meet people that have similar (and what I consider positive and realistic) goals and outlooks or not meet at all. I'm not bashing religion (or alcohol) either. I'm entirely ok with both in moderation but I won't be a regular at places either is the central…
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Re: Ask HN: How do you meet new people?
#20Does anyone have success forming friendships and relationships online? If so, how did you do it?
It's possible but harder IMO -- on the web the force drawing you together must be pretty strong, since there are a billion others there too, so why make the effort?
But it is a good starting point!