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The classic dyad, caring about someone deeply and having them care about you, is a great way to do that.
But even if you’re unpartnered, or partnership isn’t your thing, the best parts of life are often when you’re caring for others.
After that, it’s more about knowing how you’re wired and doing whatever serves that. I need to spend a lot of time in physically beautiful places and experience novel sensations and adventures. Other people are homebodies.
Not trying to be a wise ass here - just curious how people know what makes them happy. Asking because I have a hard time answering OP's question
Helping others around me. As Ive grown up and become (I guess) a little more successful, material things dont matter so much, but helping my employees grow and fulfill their potential is very satisfying. As a gay man I wonder if theres some latent paternal forces coming through here, any straight people (bosses) with employees, do you also feel some sense of crossover with your children and employees? Just curious
Helping others around me. As Ive grown up and become (I guess) a little more successful, material things dont matter so much, but helping my employees grow and fulfill their potential is very satisfying. As a gay man I wonder if theres some latent paternal forces coming through here, any straight people (bosses) with employees, do you also feel some sense of crossover with your children and employees? Just curious
To quote wikipedia -
In it, Haidt poses several "Great Ideas" on happiness espoused by thinkers of the past – Plato, Buddha, Jesus and others – and examines them in the light of contemporary psychological research, extracting from them any lessons that still apply to our modern lives. Central to the book are the concepts of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, and meaning.
I have been following some of the suggestions in there - more vacations and holidays, meditation, helping people etc which has surely helped me become happier.