I think you're using an outlier to compare to an entire population, the argument doesn't really hold up.
(indeed, it's unfortunate for your friend and I'm sorry that they're in that situation)
For the average person though (which, when we talk about American healthcare, is largely who we are discussing), and a for the majority of the population, things work out very differently. Myself and the members of my family have had countless hospital stays, ER visits, surgeries, checkups, ambulance rides (approx $300 flat fee), assessments, scans and x-rays. All without any of us carrying any debt or dealing with any related financial hardship (lower tax bracket, so no special benefit plans or anything).
Friend's kid's appendix needed removal, multiple night stay at the hospital. No cost. What does that look like in America?
I had a deviated septum and didn't breath great. I breath just fine now after my totally covered septoplasty. What does that look like in America?
Kids recently got strep throat and needed a doctors appointment to get a prescription for antibiotics ($42 to cover the prescription) What does that look like in America? (honestly I'm curious about this one, would it be more than a couple hundred dollars for that?)
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