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Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by hackits »

6cd6beb wrote: post #26

I figured something like this would exist, but I don't think it's very useful. I've walked the dark path of trying to implement "pickup artist" material(can't imagine that'll be received well), and I can say that: A) an objective approach works (if you're humble and willing to recognize/adjust for failure) B) there's a torrent of snake oil out there C) you learn a lot when you try this stuff. A lot. A lot of that mat…

Here is my two cents.

A) Is superior in every way.

Now let me fill in the gaps a little bit and maybe some-one else will find this information useful.

First step is to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself `do` you find yourself physically attractive? Do you have good posture, Do you have a low 10%-16% body fat percentage? Are you dressed to impress or just dress just it over with?

If you answered no, then 10000% work on those aspects of yourself first before wasting time with dating apps and also meeting people in person.

For the remainder or if you're curious keep reading.

You're going to have to come to the realization there are going to be certain percentage of women out there who want to have sex with you. You're going to appeal to a group of women, Hispanic, Greek, Asian, Caucasian, Indian and age groups. How are you going to find this out? You're going to put yourself out there and be judged by women. It sux's, you're going to get some women who're going to receptive to you and there are some women who literally will run away from your approach to them. Though that is going to be the only way you're going to find out what type of Women are attracted to your personality and your appearance.

Finally, forget dating app's. Unless you're the top 5% tall guy with a six pack and a fantastic smile you're wasting your time and money.

Time that is better spent approaching women and learning.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by Throwaway198724 »

EGreg wrote: post #50
Throwaway198724 wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

When I was using dating sites, I did the same on OkCupid, and signed up a fake account with the photos of a woman that was slightly above average in appearance. I was curious to see how many messages I would receive, but more importantly, the type and quality of those messages. I thought that would give me a better idea of how to write my own messages (e.g. if 90% of messages were asking the same question, I didn't w…

You guys are good. But I have a suggestion. Have your friend reach out first and say he knows someone she will really click with. If she doesn’t go for it, THEN you reach out. Dating as it stands is only a recent phenomenon. It is far better when three people with different preferences keep the others in mind when out dating. Far better to do introductions than always be out for yourself.

I don't think that would work well online. I see two major issues:

1. It implies you're so desperately single that even your friends are trying to set you up with people.

2. Whether true or not, it sounds like your "friend" is actually you, which comes across as very cheesy.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by EGreg »

Throwaway198724 wrote: post #53
EGreg wrote: post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You guys are good. But I have a suggestion. Have your friend reach out first and say he knows someone she will really click with. If she doesn’t go for it, THEN you reach out. Dating as it stands is only a recent phenomenon. It is far better when three people with different preferences keep the others in mind when out dating. Far better to do introductions than always be out for yourself.

I don't think that would work well online. I see two major issues: 1. It implies you're so desperately single that even your friends are trying to set you up with people. 2. Whether true or not, it sounds like your "friend" is actually you, which comes across as very cheesy.

Why don't you try it? I did. I got a large response rate and the women were interested and curious because everyone else was out for themselves.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by laurieg »

wpietri wrote: post #41

I don't even get this. If you don't have time to date, how would you have time for a relationship?

"I don't have time to do x" is almost always code for "I have other things that I want to do more than x"

So it sounds like these people would make time to go on dates, or have a romantic partner, but they find online dating tedious so they pay to have someone do it for them.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by Swizec »

6cd6beb wrote: post #26

I figured something like this would exist, but I don't think it's very useful. I've walked the dark path of trying to implement "pickup artist" material(can't imagine that'll be received well), and I can say that: A) an objective approach works (if you're humble and willing to recognize/adjust for failure) B) there's a torrent of snake oil out there C) you learn a lot when you try this stuff. A lot. A lot of that mat…

> C) you learn a lot when you try this stuff. A lot.

It basically teaches you how to do sales and run a lead-to-conversion pipeline.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by matte_black »

throwaway_234 wrote: post #11
cblock811 wrote: post #8

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It sounds accurate for Grindr, Scruff and Hornet in the world of gay 'dating' apps as well.

All dating should be like gay apps/dating... theres always someone wanting to talk to you, trade pics and try to hook up with you. At least if you have a nice body, decent face and are 20 to 40... unfortunately being white might help too. Str8 dating app scams barely exist on gay/bi apps. There's no need for it due to how men are. Horny and looking 24/7.

What I don’t understand is why so many people (at least women anyway) come to dating apps and declare they are just “looking for friends”.

Is this really a thing or is it code for something else? Who is really so oblivious to think that looking for friends of the opposite sex on a dating app where people are there for more than just friendship is a good idea?

I would never go on a dating app to find platonic friends. That is exactly the last place I would go.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by swyx »

laurieg wrote: post #2

It is very informative to make a an online dating profile of the opposite gender. I'm a man, but when I made an account on tinder with a female friend's pictures I was blown away by just how radically different the experience was. Almost every person would match with me. Everyone would message me straight away. If I didn't reply most would message again in a few hours. A few would get very angry/upset that I didn't r…

threads like these make me despair about ever dating ever again. as a society we should be concerned about what tinder and bumble are doing to us, but -no one- has the power to stop it because it appeals to such base instincts.

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by throwaway_234 »

tgb wrote: post #31
cblock811 wrote: post #8

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It sounds accurate for Grindr, Scruff and Hornet in the world of gay 'dating' apps as well.

Can you elaborate? My reading of the top comment is about how tinder has radically different experiences for men as for women. What is the similar dynamic on gay dating apps?

Just read the article and LoL there's zero effort on bi/gay hook up apps... just post the hottest pic of your 20 to 40 (maybe on up to 50)yourself .. face or body pic and boom filter through to find the ones your into.

Another interesting thing you can become old news(after months of having the same picture in your town) yet if you travel 10 to 20 miles down the road your new hot news and the instant gratification of lots of prospects continues.

Hiring a ghost writer to do the work on a bi/gay hook up is laughable. Though wow str8 app dating has gotten so hard guys are hiring ghost writers and fakes of himself to chat up/seal a date. WOW thats ridiculous lets kill these apps and meet the old fashion way!!!

Re: Impersonators who are paid to flirt on dating apps

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Post by laurieg »

matte_black wrote: post #57
throwaway_234 wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

All dating should be like gay apps/dating... theres always someone wanting to talk to you, trade pics and try to hook up with you. At least if you have a nice body, decent face and are 20 to 40... unfortunately being white might help too. Str8 dating app scams barely exist on gay/bi apps. There's no need for it due to how men are. Horny and looking 24/7.

What I don’t understand is why so many people (at least women anyway) come to dating apps and declare they are just “looking for friends”. Is this really a thing or is it code for something else? Who is really so oblivious to think that looking for friends of the opposite sex on a dating app where people are there for more than just friendship is a good idea? I would never go on a dating app to find platonic friends.…

Some people are using "just looking for friends" as a filter. They want the person who talks to them to be ok with being friends first before they switch to being romantic.

There is often an element of self-deception too. "I'm not the sort of person who would use a dating app, I don't need it" You see a lot of "I'm just trying out this app to kill time" people too.

Other people use it as a built-in refusal. They can say "Sorry, I'm just looking for friends" when they are asked on a date by someone they aren't interested in. When someone more appealing asks them out no one will complain that they aren't following their "just friends" rule.

Dating is full of interesting meta-behaviour like this.

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