Avoid drastic moves. The older I get the more I realize most “drastic move” stories are bs PR pieces. Think how you can move in the direction you want to go in steps. Move to a cheaper location: see if you can move to a satellite office or work remote. No, then look at other jobs you could interview at in the area you want to move to. Translate your FANG experience into a career jump. Then you will have experience an…
I agree that drastic moves are not always wise. OP said they had 1.1M in the bank. If that money was invested in dividend stocks, they could have over 38K of passive income a year. In the US, dividend income is only taxed at 15%, too. They could opt to withdraw the 600K from the 401K, use that to buy a condo in cash, and live off the dividend income. Retire now, basically, and live a fairly comfortable life. It's not…
Definitely. Decide how much a modest retirement is, and then hit that goal. If non-city dwelling is something you like, you can live far away from the city very cheaply.
On top of that, I'd try to find ways to cheapen your life now. 500k/y is a lot, and while everything's relative, you could lower your standard of living and put away a ton of money in just a year or two, getting your goals faster.