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Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by PakG1 »

xab9 wrote: post #123
PakG1 wrote: post #101

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Reading my comment, I can understand why you'd advise this. I think it's unnecessary at this point because I understand a lot more about myself that I didn't before and was getting to a good place just before I met her. Thankfully, never had been suicidal or anything like that. Thanks for the concern though. :)

I'm not talking about being suicidal, I'm talking about being dependent - but of course it is your call. I always thought of my marriage as something of an unbreakable sacred wonder that "fixed me" for good, but looking back now I'm not exactly sure about it. Funny thing is that if someone told me this, I would've laughed at him or just dismissed the theory alltogether.

I get that. It's of course completely possible that we're only in honeymoon stage. I also understand the psychology that if you're looking for others to fill up your own inadequacies, you may run into trouble. But in my case, I don't think that's the story for me. Rather, she's opened my eyes about the wrong ways I viewed everything. I can quantifiably say that she's making me a better person firstly through giving me a platform for having confidence, secondly by acting as a confidante, and thirdly by giving me feedback about everything I do. It helps that we have common values, goals, and faith.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by hakanderyal »

I've never met you, and I live thousands of miles away from you. I'm also a Google opponent because of the questionable privacy practices.

But your work have inspired me on more than one occasion. I've always loved following your comments on HN.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there were things that I can say to make you feel any better.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by dsacco »

danpalmer wrote: post #103
senatorobama wrote: post #99

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Yes, because it's common knowledge to change companies every ~3 years to get a 20%+ salary increase instead of a miserly 0-10%.

When you make enough, making more money means less to you and you care much more about the workplace, the people, the mission. Either that, or find a company that does raises in line with what you’d get from moving. Netflix is famous for this (and has high retention), but there are other companies. The company I work for has a similar approach and I know I’m unlikely to make more at another company unless I move into…

> Netflix is famous for this (and has high retention)

Netflix has high turnover, about 15-20% depending on source.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by criddell »

askl56 wrote: post #89
andrewbinstock wrote: post #78

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I have long felt that death certificates are done completely wrong. Instead of just listing the proximate medical cause, they should list the true cause: he died of loneliness; he died of a broken heart; he died because he was homeless and couldn't find his way to the help he needed. When those are the causes of death that we start to track, perhaps the world will become a better place.

But that's not medically true? The proximate medical cause has to be valid and complete, otherwise what is the point in listing it? A death certificate provides full information as to why someone died for the relatives and for the state. This provides them with an explanation of how and why their relative died. It also gives them a permanent record of information about their family medical history, which may be impor…

> But that's not medically true?

Don't be afraid to let a little poetry into your life.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by criddell »

lisper wrote: post #25

Matt was a colleague in Google's early days. He embodied all of the best qualities of the organization. He can do anything he wants to, but he chooses to spend his time improving Google's search experience, and freely giving of his wisdom and expertise through his blog. If there was ever a person who did not deserve this, it's Matt.

And when he decided to move on, he went into public service in the U.S. Digital Service. I really admire Matt.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by ecshafer »

JepZ wrote: post #117
saiya-jin wrote: post #105

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In western Europe, you do this couple of times (not as external consultant of course, but as perm employee), and you get semi-permanently branded as unreliable and unstable. For good reasons. I can see reasoning for this and it makes sense to me (i did it couple of times myself when younger, wouldn't' do that now). In growing economies, or where there isn't enough experienced IT people this isn't valid though.

From my own experience: - If someone stays less than 2 years with a company something is wrong (the person, the company or the combination). - If someone stays longer than 4 years with a company in the same job, without promotion, that person is probably not the 'manager' type. Both situations just give you hints on whether someone matches the profile you are searching for, but switching companies after 3-4 years see…

3 to 4 years is a good amount of time to switch, but I think 5 to 6 is probably better, it you have a good fit with a company. 5 to 6 years is the normal amount of time to 100% vest company 401k contributions, and any stock options. Leaving early can be a lot of money on the table.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by 5555624 »

senatorobama wrote: post #96
danielvf wrote: post #3

For those wondering who Matt is, he’s a fifteen plus year Googler, ex head of Safe Search and web anti-spam, now acting director of the US Digital Service.

Wow. Fifteen years in a single company.

July will mark 34 years at the same company. It's been an interesting ride. When I started, what little computing we did was on a shared mainframe, miles away, or on old Wang word processors. We had one IBM PC, acquired without permission, in a closet. (I don't miss 8-inch floppy disks.) The introduction of PCs, installing networks, developing our own systems, etc. I've been part of it all. I've always had the flexibiity to try something new. I almost became management a couple of years ago; but, I'm glad to just be a senior engineer.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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Post by zzenon »

PakG1 wrote: post #131
xab9 wrote: post #123

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm not talking about being suicidal, I'm talking about being dependent - but of course it is your call. I always thought of my marriage as something of an unbreakable sacred wonder that "fixed me" for good, but looking back now I'm not exactly sure about it. Funny thing is that if someone told me this, I would've laughed at him or just dismissed the theory alltogether.

I get that. It's of course completely possible that we're only in honeymoon stage. I also understand the psychology that if you're looking for others to fill up your own inadequacies, you may run into trouble. But in my case, I don't think that's the story for me. Rather, she's opened my eyes about the wrong ways I viewed everything. I can quantifiably say that she's making me a better person firstly through giving m…

I don't think xab9 is denying that your wife made you a better person and see things in a different light. That's awesome and you should be proud of her. But your comments keep showing a form of dependancy that can quickly spiral out of control and turn against you (personally I have been there). A psychologist can be a tremendous help in preventing such situations.

Like xab9's comment, please do not take offence in my comment either.

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