This is incredibly sad news.
Some terrible personal news
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#92After reading the very small amount of information provided about the reason for her passing, I can't help but be curious about the exact reason. Sometimes it's comforting to know that something was a freak accident, versus something preventable. Does anyone know what might have happened in this case?
I certainly hope this isn't perceived as being insensitive. I can't imagine the pain he's going through, and I truly do hope he finds some amount of comfort or normalcy in this unimaginably painful time.
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#93I'm so sorry.
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#94Earlier quoted context omitted.
I lost my mom in 2001. One week after 9/11. I was 6. I often wonder if I would have been a better person if she was there.
Is it too late to become what she would have wanted? I don't mean to be glib, but you were a young kid then and (presumably) you're not anymore. Could you recreate her in your mind and allow her to influence you to become the person you would have been? I'm a father, and I used to worry about what might happen to my young kids if I died. It would be a great comfort to me to imagine them, after they got older, making…
A person recreated from memory is still a fake, no matter how accurate you and your memory are.
And most people do boot have the skill to do a full character model at the age of 6. It takes special talent nature to do that even when old. That is even ignoring the fact that people change and adapt over time in hard to predict ways.
So this thought exercise is actually protecting your own wishes through the light of some imagined model of a person. Might as well use Tarot cards instead.
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#95I like sharing work related things in public.
I don't like sharing personal things in public.
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#96For those wondering who Matt is, he’s a fifteen plus year Googler, ex head of Safe Search and web anti-spam, now acting director of the US Digital Service.
Wow. Fifteen years in a single company.
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#97For those wondering who Matt is, he’s a fifteen plus year Googler, ex head of Safe Search and web anti-spam, now acting director of the US Digital Service.
Wow. Fifteen years in a single company.
Is that....weird? My coworker has worked here for 25 years now, and he's still "just" a programmer, was never interested in taking a managerial/lead position. There's plenty of programmers who have 10~20 years of seniority here. And it's a games company, so it's not like these people work on some archaic systems - major, triple A releases everyone heard about.
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#98That's a really lovely tribute to his wife. Good of him to mention the mental health issue as well. So many people grow up thinking they or their family are the only ones and that it's best kept quiet about.
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#99Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wow. Fifteen years in a single company.
Is that....weird? My coworker has worked here for 25 years now, and he's still "just" a programmer, was never interested in taking a managerial/lead position. There's plenty of programmers who have 10~20 years of seniority here. And it's a games company, so it's not like these people work on some archaic systems - major, triple A releases everyone heard about.
Yes, because it's common knowledge to change companies every ~3 years to get a 20%+ salary increase instead of a miserly 0-10%.
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#100Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is it too late to become what she would have wanted? I don't mean to be glib, but you were a young kid then and (presumably) you're not anymore. Could you recreate her in your mind and allow her to influence you to become the person you would have been? I'm a father, and I used to worry about what might happen to my young kids if I died. It would be a great comfort to me to imagine them, after they got older, making…
A person recreated from memory is still a fake, no matter how accurate you and your memory are. And most people do boot have the skill to do a full character model at the age of 6. It takes special talent nature to do that even when old. That is even ignoring the fact that people change and adapt over time in hard to predict ways. So this thought exercise is actually protecting your own wishes through the light of so…
You are right, it is a mind game, IMO just not as far fetched as you paint it.
I think what GP is aiming at is this: If you think you are a worse person (whatever that means) than you could be, be it from your or any other persons' perspective, is it too late to change?
Or put differently: Years after someones death, the picture of what one could be, is a mind-game already. From here to picturing what you/your mind would like to change is not that much of a stretch.