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Any non-"success porn" sites you might recommend? I know this differs between people but I'd be interested to know what sites you view as the opposite of those listed.
Entrepreneur communities like https://www.indiehackers.com/ and http://discuss.bootstrapped.fm/
Having someone you really love, that also love you back and give you support, will get you through whatever failure you do and will go through.
If you're currently in the mindset where all you can think about is taking your startup to success and not caring about anything else like personal relationships, it might be time for a change. Look not for random hookups, but seek a real relationship with someone that matters.
YMMV but I'd encourage you to take a break from consuming "success porn" online. That's my broad term for: Social media: because people curate everything and only post things that make their lives look amazing. Real life isn't a constant string of wins, success, and happiness. Don't let it distort your view and wonder why your life isn't the same. Startup news: TechCrunch, Recode, Bus. Insider, and even here on HN. P…
In other words, come to know this: There is no need to be anything special.
Do something to the person you care about, (or) the persons who care about you. Like, go for a walk with them. Speak about all the moments that you missed to recognise/understand/been insensitive to them.
After all "Succesful" is like a user story that your product manager promised to fill the "acceptance criteria" for. That will never have an end. Succesful is a state of mind like depression and you have the choice to choose between being succesful or depressed in whatever you do.
All the best.
I know this is easier said than done -- finding a significant other and having a meaningful relationship. Having someone you really love, that also love you back and give you support, will get you through whatever failure you do and will go through. If you're currently in the mindset where all you can think about is taking your startup to success and not caring about anything else like personal relationships, it migh…
Personally, am fine with moderate success and having my time free to pursue interests - learning, reading, etc. But I am bothered about it, when friends ask me about it. As in general, if someone has chosen an off beat path (i.e. startup or similar or anything other than normal corporate life) people have more questions.
Also, we all wish that we ought to be more successful than we are. Am middle aged (40s), so have some regrets about not investing better. Not that have done bad. But could definitely have done better, if devoted more time on it, than focusing 100% of energy on startup.
Added later: (In the vein of some other comments) Today morning, I did an exercise, of trying to remember, how many people I have helped in life, in a way that their life got better. And also trying to remember how many people who helped me in a similar way. The exercise left me happier. Just stating it here, to say there are several ways of measuring our lives.
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Be Marcus Aurelius. Become a stoic. Think more of virtue than of success. Success is a hollow word, like in nutrition “it’s an empty calorie”. Rather focus on the virtues of your life. Those are life-giving, filled with “soul nutrients”. So ... dammit man: Feed the cat. Take the dog for a walk. If that’s all you do today, you made it. Help a struggling neighbour make that rent payment just this month - do it anonymou…
Been down and overwhelmed lately.It's easy to get stuck in grind mode and not take time to look around and remember what actually matters.