These discussions are always composed of people who don't know very much laying down philosophical assertions (that they very rarely realize are philosophical)That seems needlessly judgmental.
...and innocent bystanders posing reasonable what-if questions...
They’re rarely reasonable. You get a lot of questions which are philosophical in nature, but which people believe are scientific. “What is time like for a photon?” “What was there before the Big Bang?” “What is spacetime expanding into?” “What’s inside of the event horizon of a black hole?” “Why are the physical constants what they are?”
When you give the scientific answer, “Bad question, like asking what’s North of The North Pole?” People are unhappy. Plus you’re a dick, because you can figure out what they’re asking and try to give a complete and accessible answer, complete with warnings as to the philosophical/metaphysical nature of both question and answer.
...that really can't be answered with (present) empirical knowledge.
Often the questions themselves are essentially unanswerable in principle. It’s not easy to ask good, relevant, scientific questions about QM or STR/GTR. The lack of knowledge is more of a factor when the questions are insightful.
Like politics, the content of what is said is dominated by the dynamics of the discussion, with English skills "winning" arguments more often than anything else.
Depends on the audience... try that in a rigorous environment and be crucified, but on HN the rigor is absent. It’s a good thing too, because it’s Hacker News, not PhysicsForums.
Physics is already approximate; experiments don't have access to infinity significant figures. If you'd prefer a more complicated example then ask anyone who has ever calculated a QED problem to less than infinity terms.
And? You seem to be complaining that on a site full of non-physicists, people don’t act like physicists. Besides, ontologies of QM are philosophical, not scientific, and hardly limited to laypeople.