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Whataboutism isn't when someone complains that Y is bad too. It's when someone asks why you're complaining about X given Y is similar in some way.
What I'm saying is that each normal conversational mechanic doesn't deserve an "ism" just because you think it's "a bad thing".
It's perfectly normal to add perspective by saying "what about X" in a conversation, which is what this site is here for. This is not a structured debate for crying out loud! People can make your comment disappear without even having to prove anything!