Regrets of the Dying
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Regrets of the Dying
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#2I like this article. I wish, however, that it didn't include the little interpretations in the second half of each section. I think it would be more powerful, and honest, if they weren't there.
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#3The article is a bit too short in my point of view, I wish there were a bit more stories told in. It feels a bit cold in that form.
This is a very good article nonetheless. I think this is a good goal to be conscious of what is missing in one's life for feeling satisfied at the end. If you are aware of the trade-off you do and why, it's probably easier to be OK with it at the end.
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#4> All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
the problem i find is that your choice is between 150% (employed) or 0% (unemployable).
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#5I wonder if there is a way to bring realizations born of other people's experiences home in any meaningful way. I sometimes think about what advice I'd give my 17-year-old self if I had to attend college again, but I admit that the younger me likely wouldn't have listened. It's hard to know what to value in the moment, and I find it's equally hard to absorb what others with the benefit of hindsight tell you. I'd bet that none of these expressed regrets really surprises any of us, but chances are we'll all have the same ones on our own deathbeds -- despite knowing better.
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#6> All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. the problem i find is that your choice is between 150% (employed) or 0% (unemployable).
70 years from now you may think differently. I'm not saying that as a bad thing, or in a condescending way, merely to point out that sometimes, we truly cannot know what looking death in the face feels like. And that our thoughts on various things - all sorts of things - change when we finally do.
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#7I wonder if there is a way to bring realizations born of other people's experiences home in any meaningful way. I sometimes think about what advice I'd give my 17-year-old self if I had to attend college again, but I admit that the younger me likely wouldn't have listened. It's hard to know what to value in the moment, and I find it's equally hard to absorb what others with the benefit of hindsight tell you. I'd bet…
People will always need to learn on their own time and in their own way. The best thing you can do for someone is give them a safe environment to make mistakes.
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#8I have met quite a few patients that were undergoing palliative care for their treatments and I heard a lot of the same.
One recurring theme I found was that ministers and priests always ended up doubting or renouncing their faith. It was terribly depressing.
Whenever I think back it always reminds me to spend more time with my family- they provide the best support in these sort of situations and close families always had a happier "vibe".
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#9I have met quite a few patients that were undergoing palliative care for their treatments and I heard a lot of the same. One recurring theme I found was that ministers and priests always ended up doubting or renouncing their faith. It was terribly depressing. Whenever I think back it always reminds me to spend more time with my family- they provide the best support in these sort of situations and close families alway…
One recurring theme I found was that ministers and priests always ended up doubting or renouncing their faith. It was terribly depressing.
I'm curious: why?
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#10I wonder if there is a way to bring realizations born of other people's experiences home in any meaningful way. I sometimes think about what advice I'd give my 17-year-old self if I had to attend college again, but I admit that the younger me likely wouldn't have listened. It's hard to know what to value in the moment, and I find it's equally hard to absorb what others with the benefit of hindsight tell you. I'd bet…
If you've raised your 17 y/o in a way that has imbued him with the principles behind your realizations, there's no need to give him any specific advice about college. Passing on that knowledge is not about specific advice: it's about the way you raise your children; about the way you counteract what 'society' teaches them it expects and freeing them to make choices that will make them happier instead of what makes others happier.