Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

Post by heartles » Fri, Feb 16, 2018, 6:32 PM UTC

notyourday wrote: post #313

acranox wrote: post #226

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Ok, but do you think those 12 year olds are going to all grow up to be well behaving adults? Or maybe the problems with this kind of sexism are starting very young. If you are right then the solutions still need to be addressed, but we need to start earlier.

I am going to speculate that it is incredibly unlikely that those 12 year old are going to grow up to be well behaved adults. I'm also going to speculate that the vast majority of those twelve year olds do not telegraph their wickedness to anyone in their life or their social circles - parents, teachers, relatives, etc because for last several decades US adult population has been playing ostrich pretending that the d…

Post by taurath » Fri, Feb 16, 2018, 6:34 PM UTC

giantsloth wrote: post #510

muse900 wrote: post #425

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As a kid I grew up playing video games. Around the age of 13 I switched on to online video games. I spent too much time on games like w3/wow etc. As a kid being exposed to such an environment wasn't good at all. After years, now being in my 30's I can totally understand how online gaming changed me and my interactions vs people that haven't played online games etc are completely different. I used to have a complete d…

I believe this comment is turning an issue of sexism into an issue of impoliteness that's developed around the culture of gaming, and I think that's a particularly toxic viewpoint. Rather than addressing the real fact that women are treated as sexual objects by men generally, whether in thought or anonymous action in message chat boxes, this sort of comment turns it into an issue of "polite conversation". To me it se…

Post by dang » Fri, Feb 16, 2018, 6:35 PM UTC

grasshopperpurp wrote: post #402

And, no one should have any issue reporting those people to their employers. If you act like scum, particularly with your employer in your profile, society should punish you.

Post by orthecreedence » Fri, Feb 16, 2018, 6:36 PM UTC

guy98238710 wrote: post #87

vortico wrote: post #79

It's without a doubt that there is extreme misogyny on the internet and in the real world, but I would be interested in the demographics of the bad responses you got: country, age, gender, etc. This is the natural next step to understand how to solve this problem.

It's not without a doubt. See other comments. It might be that people think the pretty woman photo is fake or that it's all a scripted bot. The sexism might actually go the other way round - some people assuming these web devs are ugly antisocial men hiding behind fake photo of a pretty woman.

Post by orthecreedence » Fri, Feb 16, 2018, 6:42 PM UTC

jtbayly wrote: post #250

Unpopular opinion ahead: For all we know, the majority of the rude comments are coming from women. And if you are assuming, without evidence, that these comments all come from males, then you are either sexist or there really are differences between men and women that ought to inform things like what jobs we put people in as a society, for the sake of everybody involved.