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What Teenagers Are Learning from Online Porn

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Re: What Teenagers Are Learning from Online Porn

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Post by linopolus »

rayiner wrote: post #66
peatfreak wrote: post #11

Thank you for posting this. This is a topic that I've long been fascinated by but never knew anything about. I'm way in the older end of the bell curve of age distribution of Hacker News readers, so I've personally experienced how pornography has evolved over the past thirty (or so) years, i.e., ever since I became curious about sex and turned on by naked women. And without a doubt the "hardness" and easy availabilit…

Is there “no escaping” that conclusion? Maybe it’s wrong for the same reason that “violent movies make kids violent” theory was wrong: people know how to distinguish reality from fantasy/entertainment.

> people know how to distinguish reality from fantasy/entertainment

So you think 15-year-olds who never experienced sex know how to distinguish reality (sex with a real partner) from fantasy (porn). Where would they have the knowledge how real sex is from?

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Post by Chris2048 »

sexoffender wrote: post #25
gameswithgo wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>Pornography kills love. Can you expound on this further? What exactly does it mean and what evidence is there to support it?

Love is the wanting good for another person even if it costs you personally. Porn teaches you to want pleasure for yourself, even if it costs someone else. That's not love, that's lust. The chemicals released in your body and especially brain during orgasm build a closer connection and bond within you to the concepts and people you focused on during it. Pornography trains you to be selfish. Whereas having sex and bot…

> Pornography trains you to be selfish

Unless you don't derive your entire life outlook from it. Plus, there is plenty pornography where both orgasm - if anything the porn actresses' seem unrealistically happy.

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Post by gkya »

Tech-Noir wrote: post #77
mandazi wrote: post #4

The availability and ease for this type of content is scary especially when children are more connected than ever. Pornography kills love (Edit: https://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-kills-love/ ). Love is extremely important for human beings and civilizations. It drives art, philosophy, faith, religion, etc. It is love that produced great works throughout history. I read some where there was going to be a TLD for por…

> I read some where there was going to be a TLD for porn (.xxx I think). There were ideas about that for years, maybe even in the late 1990s, and eventually about 5-10 years ago it was set up. Ironically, many in the "porn industry" were strongly against it; I think more to do with the company running it, though, than the idea of being confined to an online ghetto. Most porn still remains on .com or on country TLDs a…

I would actually prefer a world where the TLD in a domain name had actual semantical value, but except .gov, .edu and a couple others that opportunity is lost.

Re: What Teenagers Are Learning from Online Porn

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Post by MarkMc »

linopolus wrote: post #141
rayiner wrote: post #66

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Is there “no escaping” that conclusion? Maybe it’s wrong for the same reason that “violent movies make kids violent” theory was wrong: people know how to distinguish reality from fantasy/entertainment.

> people know how to distinguish reality from fantasy/entertainment So you think 15-year-olds who never experienced sex know how to distinguish reality (sex with a real partner) from fantasy (porn). Where would they have the knowledge how real sex is from?

From talking to their friends, or older siblings, or parents about their experience. By watching non-pornographic films where sex scenes are more realistic. By reading online accounts from other teenagers or adults. By talking about it in sex ed class. By reading articles in the newspaper such as "What Teenagers Are learning from Online Porn".

Moreover, the 15-year-old doesn't need to know what real sex is like in order to suspect that porn is fantasy. "Snakes on a Plane" is not treated as a documentary by people who have never travelled on a plane.

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Post by mandazi »

LyndsySimon wrote: post #71
mandazi wrote: post #4

The availability and ease for this type of content is scary especially when children are more connected than ever. Pornography kills love (Edit: https://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-kills-love/ ). Love is extremely important for human beings and civilizations. It drives art, philosophy, faith, religion, etc. It is love that produced great works throughout history. I read some where there was going to be a TLD for por…

> I wish they did that and all the porn content was only on that TLD. Then browsers can easily block all porn for underage viewers. This is about as practical as the evil bit[1]. > I know I would do that for my children until they are adults and I believe they can make their own decisions. "and"? This implies that you want to control the media consumption of your adult children if you don't believe that they "can mak…

Sorry I meant to say that when they are adults they can make their own decisions.

Re: What Teenagers Are Learning from Online Porn

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Post by ggggtez »

sexoffender wrote: post #131
ggggtez wrote: post #129

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ignoring your distasteful name for a moment; you have a very black-and-white view. 2 person job? Said who? 1 person sex, or 3 person sex, or more... Who says 2 is the only or even the best way?

The physical nature of human beings: a single penis fits into a single vagina, and that's how babies are made. It takes exactly two people for this to work. Sex can be done in other ways but this is the magic formula for sex to make a baby, and making babies seems to be the primary purpose of sex within nature. And my name isn't meant to be tasteful, it's meant to be honest. I committed the crime of public indecency…

I think this is a very uninformed opinion. If what you said was true, there is no logical reason for why humans would have sex while they are already pregnant.

I won't even point out all the reasons your argument doesn't make sense, because it's clear you haven't thought about what it would mean if what you said was true. It just doesn't match up to real human behavior.

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Post by wantmore »

madeofpalk wrote: post #118
dqpb wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The article is not about addiction

In fact, the article explicitly points out there's no scientific evidence for "porn addiction" existing in the first place.

Who says porn is not addicting? I want to watch porn every day even in normal sex life. I used to get excited by bootlegged black and white paper books. The it moved on to static images at the beginning of internet. Now with broadband I only watch clips. By the the clip is over I am over. You know what I mean.
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