>> Please don't speak for the "majority" of us without backing it up with polling
data at minimum.
I'm not speaking for the majority of trans women. I'm speaking of them. So
when I say that "my description covers a strong majority of trans women" I
mean that the traits I list describe a majority of trans women, in my
experience and in my opinion. I don't mean that the trans women I describe in
this way would agree with my description of those traits, or that a majority
of them would share my views.
If you ask me, because I also have a bit of background in various trans
communities, I think the majority of trans women would not accept the traits I
ascribe to them. I did warn that my comment would probably be controversial.
In trans cirlces, it would most definitely be.
>> Often I find these lines of thought to be thinly veiled attempts at othering
trans folk, erasing their identity, and forcing them out of gender spaces
entirely. If transgender women are to stay out of women's spaces while not
being accepted in men's spaces, where do they belong?
While there is still need for gendered spaces? We belong in our own spaces.
Personally, I'd feel a lot safer and not just a lot less awkward in a space
meant for trans women than in one meant for cis women, or even all women.
I don't have to speak in the hypothetical. I have actuall been in trans
spaces. Once as a representative of my country at a TGEU meeting, which was
how I imagine heaven to be, a couple of days where I was between the only
people in the world who can really get me, other trans women and men (the few
cis people were friendly enough to not spoil it although I wasn't sure why we
had to have a cis facilitator, but no matter).
Another time I went to a meeting of an LGBT group at the university were I
studied. This was a meeting to discuss trans matters and it was open to
everyone, but it was preceded by a closed meeting, only for people who
identified as trans. And that was nice also.
Finally, I've been a member of a local support group for trans people, for a
couple of years, before I started working and didn't have any time to attend
the meetings anymore.
All those were places were I've felt I can really belong and where I don't
have to explain anything, although sometimes this had more to do with passing
privilege and women with less heteronormative presentation were less welcome,
I'm very sad to say.
We need more spaces like that. For trans women in tech (whose numbers are
legion, btw) we need a special place just to discuss our very specific needs
and experiences. A community for cis women in tech is just not going to be
that, I'm afraid.
And that's besides the fact that I fear we'll just end up making things
awkward for the cis women also.