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"Find a boy/girlfriend who natively speaks the language. Its best if they cant speak yours." Now that one would be a tricky one.. Starting a relationship when you can hardly communicate with eachother? ;-)
True, but you can go at it backwards too. I met my wife in grad school and decided to learn the language afterwards; probably better route IMO. The hard part has been using English as a crutch - it has always been hard to go all out in Japanese.
Now, even if I start a conversation in German, he responds in English. Bad habit. :)
I've absorbed as much as I can absorb from listening to people, language CDs & trying to read the free daily papers. I have pretty good but imprecise reading comprehension. I can have a basic conversation but I get tenses wrong sometimes and cases wrong often. (Farking cases.)
This winter I'm going to pay for a few weeks of one-on-one immersion at the local Berlitz school and hope that gets me over the hump!