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I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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I'm full nomad right now - driving my Jeep around Africa for 2 years - something like 80,000 miles through 30 countries over 2 years. [1] I'm absolutely loving it. I will never go back to full time 9-5 5 days a week. At this point, I don't even consider it life. Previously I drove Alaska to Argentina - 16 countries over 2 years and 40,000 miles. I also loved every second of that! [2] [1] http://theroadchoseme.com/afr…

Opened your site on mobile and first thing presented to me where 2 products on Amazon affiliate (a torch and mug) and no content nearby. Your lifestyle blog lost me there.

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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Former full Digital Nomad and current sporadic Digital Nomad here (37 countries so far).

First time I "went rogue" and left everything behind was more a rejection and "overdose" of normality. Repeating the same day over and over and little to no variation beside the name of the source code file.

I didn't know what I was doing, but I became good at it quickly enough.

> Nomadic life is hugely variable and it’s difficult to see patterns emerging.

That's his issue. The patterns are important too. You don't press the reset button everytime you move. It sucks, but a new city is just another city. A country side Airbnb is just another one, a language barrier is just another one. It removes some of the "explorator" fun, but you have to treat this as a cycle.

Another tip I learn the hard way, but early enough, was not to plan ahead. Murphy laws is part of the fun. You have to be more flexible than randomness itself. Not knowing what's ahead remove the stress about the future. The 70's punks might have been on something after all. With smartphone, you can book [planes/hotels/buses] last minute and get discounts. Not as big as planing months ahead, but enough to keep going (compared to full tourist rate).

Be yourself (for whatever that means). Don't try to follow a recipe for success or happyness. Freedom is about not following a path. That alone is the most rewarding aspect.

Also, "it's just a job" is important to accept. It's a job to and for yourself. The Nomad is your "job", not yourself. It's better to take a step back and just float above it all. If you take the Nomad thing too seriously and use it to define yourself, you are doomed.

One last thing thing that has to go is any sense of pride or ideological ideals about the whole Nomad thing. If you see it more about a meta joke about not liking normality, not knowing how to fix it, but trying nevertheless, then you will be fine.

https://xkcd.com/137/

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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I'm full nomad right now - driving my Jeep around Africa for 2 years - something like 80,000 miles through 30 countries over 2 years. [1] I'm absolutely loving it. I will never go back to full time 9-5 5 days a week. At this point, I don't even consider it life. Previously I drove Alaska to Argentina - 16 countries over 2 years and 40,000 miles. I also loved every second of that! [2] [1] http://theroadchoseme.com/afr…

I agree, 9-5 isn't a life. But traveling 24/7 isn't a life either. We travel to get to a destination. When you make traveling a constant inecessity it just kills the joy within it. Seems like more of a symbol of indifference rather than actual character growth.

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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post #2

I'm full nomad right now - driving my Jeep around Africa for 2 years - something like 80,000 miles through 30 countries over 2 years. [1] I'm absolutely loving it. I will never go back to full time 9-5 5 days a week. At this point, I don't even consider it life. Previously I drove Alaska to Argentina - 16 countries over 2 years and 40,000 miles. I also loved every second of that! [2] [1] http://theroadchoseme.com/afr…

At one point I was tempted to try buying a boat and becoming a sea gypsy, problem is boats are expensive holes in water that you pour more money into.

I also have the problem that my hobby-job revolves around making and tinkering with electronics, Tesla coils, radios machines etc. I would simply get bored without access to a well equipped electronics lab and mechanical workshop. So until I can afford a super yacht it is 9 - 5 for me.

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Driving alone around in Africa is what you consider life? I know working 9-5 is not a good life. However working on something you love, in an environment with friends and family and fun, is a good life i.m.h.o. I always have the feeling nomads always need to shout of the roofs of "how much better their life is". However I do think, what you are doing is super cool. However seeing it as "this is the only life thats wo…

Honestly, it sounds more like just an advertisement for their "lifestyle blog". Just like everyone and their mother is vegan now, and has to make sure you know it every second of the day.

"Look I'm worldly - I'm traveling the world!"

"Look, I'm a founder! I put a web app up!"

"Sign up for my newletter, my blog, my instagram, my X, Y, Z so you can find out how to make the same ad revenue I do, off of people just like you! You don't have to be you forever..you can take advantage of the yous and become one of the mes!"

/s

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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I'm full nomad right now - driving my Jeep around Africa for 2 years - something like 80,000 miles through 30 countries over 2 years. [1] I'm absolutely loving it. I will never go back to full time 9-5 5 days a week. At this point, I don't even consider it life. Previously I drove Alaska to Argentina - 16 countries over 2 years and 40,000 miles. I also loved every second of that! [2] [1] http://theroadchoseme.com/afr…

Driving alone around in Africa is what you consider life? I know working 9-5 is not a good life. However working on something you love, in an environment with friends and family and fun, is a good life i.m.h.o. I always have the feeling nomads always need to shout of the roofs of "how much better their life is". However I do think, what you are doing is super cool. However seeing it as "this is the only life thats wo…

You have to find you "only Life thats worth living". If you say it'd be a 9-5 life the joke is on you.

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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I think this is an interesting topic but that article is basically incomprehensible. It could have benefitted greatly from a little more of the "first this happened, then this happened" approach rather than being an impressionistic onslaught of feelings and vagueness.

The article is an advertisement . The author makes money off of the shtick "How you too can live this amazing lifestyle!"

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Honestly, it sounds more like just an advertisement for their "lifestyle blog". Just like everyone and their mother is vegan now, and has to make sure you know it every second of the day.

"Look I'm worldly - I'm traveling the world!" "Look, I'm a founder! I put a web app up!" "Sign up for my newletter, my blog, my instagram, my X, Y, Z so you can find out how to make the same ad revenue I do, off of people just like you! You don't have to be you forever..you can take advantage of the yous and become one of the mes!" /s

Not sure if you're trying to instigate, but I agree that there is just too much marketing noise, and I wish everyone would just shut up.

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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Could someone please post the text of the article? I find it challenging to read this site...

Why does this matter?

Growing numbers of people are leaving their homes to pursue a nomadic life. Exotic Instagram posts betray the challenging reality of travelling while working. We need an honest discussion about staying physically and mentally healthy while chasing our ambitions across the globe.

TL;DR —The upshot

Going nomad changes the rules and you need to look after yourself differently and more. Nomads need to talk about their mental health experiences and smash the stigma.

So you think you can skate?

By January 2017 I knew I was going to do it. I’d spent the past five years dreaming about travelling with a mission. I was about to launch a new impact-driven business. Money in the bank. No attachments. This was it. Time to hit the road.

By May I was bounding up and down the hills of Lisbon in Portugal. Sun shining and smile beaming I was in my element. I’d been practicing for this; blending work and play on short trips to ten countries in 2016.

Fast forward seven countries in seven months and I’m writing this from a courtyard in Bogotá, Colombia. Smiling again but with a very different view of myself and newfound empathy for people suffering from stress and anxiety issues.

I’m somewhere on the long slow road of recovery from a major burnout. I’d had burnouts before. I was even proud of them. They were battle scars from working my ass off for years.

Figure skaters in training are taught to ‘skate to fall’; pushing the angles so far that they crash out. It’s how they learn their limits. I thought I’d learnt mine and I wasn’t scared of falling.

It took me months to realise that this burnout was a different order of magnitude to those I’d experienced before. Adopting a nomadic lifestyle had changed the laws of physics and I was an amateur skater again. Except I didn’t know it.

Everything’s fine

The term ‘burn out’ is dangerously misleading. It suggests visible fire and smoke. In reality the Big Bang when you realise the situation you’re in comes much too late. Burning out is like being the proverbial lobster in hot water. As the temperature rises your self-awareness and ability to save yourself erodes.

Physically my experience of burnout meant poor quality sleep, rock bottom energy levels and leaning progressively on stimulants like coffee, sugar and alcohol. Which of course exacerbated the psychological swings between elated hyper-motivation and crushing depression, punctuated by anxiety.

In retrospect these were huge red flags. But I didn’t spot them for three reasons:

    Nomadic life is hugely variable and it’s difficult to see patterns emerging.
    The experience isn’t constant but cyclical, the cycles increasing in frequency and intensity over time.
    I didn’t have anyone around me close enough to recognise the difference between Settled Sam and Nomad Sam.
At least a month of denial followed my ignorance. I attempted to soldier on, convinced that my lack of motivation was just a natural, temporary down phase that I could overpower. Acceptance only came when someone held up a mirror for me.

Burnt out

I’d just finished a business meeting with a person I consider a role model. After taking a long pause to examine me he simply asked “but seriously, are you ok?” Suddenly the charade of my self deception became glaringly obvious. He could see what I was ignoring: I was a wreck. It hit me like a ten foot wave.

In the following weeks whatever effects I’d been managing to suppress rushed in. I could no longer recognise myself. I’m known as the happiest, most energetic person in the room. Cool under pressure. Always up for a laugh. That’s who I am. Who I know myself to be. So who the hell was this guy?

Rewriting the formula

My formula of the past had never really let me down: Eat properly. Get enough sleep. Exercise regularly. Have some fun. Work hard. Success follows.

It’s a great formula. Why wasn’t it working?

It turns out there’s a bunch of things I was taking for granted in ‘normal’ life that are really important to any person’s psychological wellbeing. They’re the fundamental constants which we tend to forget about because they’re always there. But change them just a little bit and all our calculations are thrown out.

    Eat properly + sleep enough+ exercise regularly + have fun + work hard ≠ success as a nomad
Everyone knows how unsettling it can be to move home. Living as a nomad the change is relentless. It’s moving home once a month. Sometimes knowing nobody. Figuring out where to work and where to eat. How to get around a new city. Often learning a new language.

Not having a fixed location disrupts the bottom three layers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

The old formula works as long as you have a stable home and income with close friends or relatives around you. Expecting it to work without those things is like trying to circumnavigate the globe with a map drawn by the Flat Earth Society.

Nomads need a new formula for staying happy and healthy across cities and countries. It’s something we need to develop from the sum of our experiences, but here’s what’s keeping me sane.

What’s keeping me sane

I’m hardly an expert on occupational burnout but here’s what’s working for me. Doing the following consistently seems to counteract the stresses of life on the road:

Doubling down on the basics

The absolute baseline has been doubling my attention to the fundamentals of eating well, getting enough sleep, exercising regularly and allowing myself downtime.

Deep connection with family and friends

I’ve had to get over the male ego complex and force myself to talk about feelings and emotions regularly. Phone calls suck but they’re better than nothing. New friends are poor substitutes for longstanding relationships.

Practising creativity in any form

When I have a home I play guitar and DJ on vinyl turntables. Unfortunately this stuff doesn’t fit in a backpack. Instead I‘m doing things that don’t need any special kit: singing, writing, and curating a street art blog on Insta.

Disconnected time for reflection

Taking a moment to just be conscious of what’s happening in my life and how I’m feeling has been crucial. I’ve banned myself from reading the news or answering emails on my phone during breakfast to create space to reflect.

Time to quit?

So here I am in Bogotá. In recovery mode but still on the road and growing. I’m unsure whether it’s the promise of unexplored lands or the dread of confinement to one place that’s driving me. But it’s definitely not time to quit. This is just the beginning.

In 7 short months I’ve met more than 500 people working to make the world a better place through technology and entrepreneurship. I’ve hiked 100km+ over mountains and through jungles. I’ve made friends from all over the world and learnt so much about their cultures.

The incredibly rich experiences nomads have, both at work and play, makes nomadism a cause worth fighting for. It’s time to have the essential conversation about the physical and mental health of people living as nomads. Let’s start it together.

Peace and love️ global adventurers

Re: I went full nomad and it almost broke me

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I think this is an interesting topic but that article is basically incomprehensible. It could have benefitted greatly from a little more of the "first this happened, then this happened" approach rather than being an impressionistic onslaught of feelings and vagueness.

This type of writing/speak is the equivalent of the classic interview response: "My biggest weakness is that I'm such a hard worker." It doesn't feel honest. I wonder if that is because the author is a founding member of digital nomad community/agency, honestly I have no idea exactly what it does because the website is super vauge, so to question the lifestyle is to question his livelihood.

You hit it on the nail. The article is actually somewhat of an advertisement. The author is signaling about his "master status" as an exemplar of this iconiclastic lifestyle. He needs to do this to sell his self-help books, tutorials, advice, etc. He also needs to gain the credibility so he is invited for talks for those mostly marketing based "Hacker Cons" where a bunch of semi believable tinkerers tell their stories about how they did something so special and mold breaking. And I don't mean technical conferences we all love. I mean the bullshit ones.
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