libertarians will tell you that that's on you for not understanding the risks involved, but that's a heartlessness and antisocial position to take.
instead, potential startup employees can educate themselves a bit on how options are a risky derivative investment in the startup you work for. there's really no need for the bitterness in your post once you can properly account for them (they're like lottery tickets that are only mostly, but not completely, up to chance).
if you know some quantitative finance, you can (approximately) value the options (binomial and black-scholes are commonly taught in b-school), but it's really easy to miss important valuation factors that will throw your valuation way off.
for example, preferred shares bought by investors could have (very unfriendly) participating preferred clauses that discount the value of your common shares. you can value that, but you'd need to be pretty good about forecasting the future value of the company to get it right.
a simpler approach is to do a rough back-of-the-envelope calculation like this: i've noticed (completely anecdotally) that startups will give you options at the current valuation that if the company has a good outcome, will net you about 1-5 years worth of salary in the end. if my salary is $100K and i believe the chances of this startup succeeding is 20% (this is the hand-wavy part), my options are worth $20-100K in 5-7 years when the startup exits.
or if you're risk averse, you'll completely discount the value of the options in comp negotiations. that's different by the way from scornful statements like "options have no value" where you're completely surrendering your agency in the matter. in this case, you acknowledge your risk tolerance and account for it.