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Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by noquarter1986 »

throwaway413 wrote: post #48
PakG1 wrote: post #40

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Feel for you. Can't imagine what to do in that situation. Can totally imagine how social media enabled a lot of that. I'm in a similar situation where my wife joined me in China because my job is over here. She's making a go of it focusing on studying and learning the language at the local university. She's really focused hard, all I ever see her do is study. So far she's happy, but sometimes I worry that she'll beco…

I can relate to that, and hope you both find some great friends to build your support network. You hit it on the head, though, that they need to be emotionally healthy people. That’s where my wife went wrong. She befriended people who were not, are not emotionally healthy. And no, no alimony. No court order. Just trying to figure out how to cut her off in the right way. We are used to a pretty lavish lifestyle and ho…

You feel bad for her?

Man she doesn't give a fuck about you. She betrayed you as thoroughly as she possibly could. She fucked other men in your house without a whisper of concern for your feelings and did it so much you had to leave your own home. And now she's laughing all the way to the bank fucking other men, in your house, in your bed, on your dime.

Her and all her attention whoring instagram friends are laughing at what a mug you are.

Stop being such a pathetic doormat and cut the disloyal slut loose.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by sillysaurus3 »

throwaway413 wrote: post #193
late2part wrote: post #185

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When you read this article, what do you think? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

Oh yeah. I think I have continued to let her act this way because being with her, being married, our family, has all been such a huge part of my identity...but that's not a bad thing to me. I guess then it must be my responsibility if I actually care about her to leave her, so she can overcome her own stuff. Which is where I'm currently at...it just fucking sucks.

How're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by eli_gottlieb »

visarga wrote: post #11
Kenji wrote: post #3

Governments all over the world will use the agenda "social media is bad, people need to be protected from it" to regulate how we interact with each other over digital media. This will stifle our ability to communicate and organize against laws and government actions that are not right. Meanwhile school homework gets more and more ridiculous and children get medicated with who knows what kind of psychoactive substance…

> Meanwhile school homework gets more and more ridiculous Parents need to adjust their expectations, or the kids are caught between a rock and a hard place. The school won't show mercy.

The schools need to come up with ways to teach more material, more rigorously, in fewer years -- at least for the intelligent students with healthy upbringings. You cannot expect the school system to function as psychological counselors, remedial educators, baby-sitters, and rigorous educators all in one. Society's choice has been to take the first three and sacrifice the last one, as a result of which, students have more and more "work" imposed on them, with standards for excellence becoming steadily more inflated, without undergraduate-, postgraduate-, and professional-level outcomes improving linearly.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by lurker456 »

downandout wrote: post #177
lurker456 wrote: post #172

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There are limits to such growth. Arguably, the growth of last few centuries has been achieved by burning up finite resources [1]. And even if we'd somehow get an infinite source of energy, at some point we'd run into the heat dissipation limit of the earth. [2] [1] http://www.inscc.utah.edu/~tgarrett/Economics/Physics_of_the... [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waste_heat

Huh? There are many businesses outside the oil and gas industries that create value.

Pretty much everything we produce or consume in the modern world is only possible due to the availability of cheap energy. health care, food, TV shows, pencils, clothes, etc.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by throwaway413 »

sillysaurus3 wrote: post #222
throwaway413 wrote: post #193

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Oh yeah. I think I have continued to let her act this way because being with her, being married, our family, has all been such a huge part of my identity...but that's not a bad thing to me. I guess then it must be my responsibility if I actually care about her to leave her, so she can overcome her own stuff. Which is where I'm currently at...it just fucking sucks.

How're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?

I'm doing pretty well actually today, thanks for asking - it really means a lot.

I made a few different calls this morning and setup an appointment with a lawyer later this week to sit down and get everything better sorted.

I started talking to a couple of my friends more about it and they have been surprisingly supportive of me, calling me, etc. Not feeling as alone as when I wake up at 3am and realize I'm all alone, which I'm not used to, but at least I know I'm sadly not alone in that boat and can relate to others.

Thanks again for reaching out. I'll shoot you an email.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by xor1 »

throwaway413 wrote: post #225
sillysaurus3 wrote: post #222

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How're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?

I'm doing pretty well actually today, thanks for asking - it really means a lot. I made a few different calls this morning and setup an appointment with a lawyer later this week to sit down and get everything better sorted. I started talking to a couple of my friends more about it and they have been surprisingly supportive of me, calling me, etc. Not feeling as alone as when I wake up at 3am and realize I'm all alone…

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorde...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorde...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disor...

Do these sound like her at all?

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by sillysaurus3 »

throwaway413 wrote: post #225
sillysaurus3 wrote: post #222

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How're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?

I'm doing pretty well actually today, thanks for asking - it really means a lot. I made a few different calls this morning and setup an appointment with a lawyer later this week to sit down and get everything better sorted. I started talking to a couple of my friends more about it and they have been surprisingly supportive of me, calling me, etc. Not feeling as alone as when I wake up at 3am and realize I'm all alone…

Please feel free to email me. Sometimes I'm up at 3am anyway, and I can relate to the whole "waking up feeling alone" experience.

Just try to remember, it's temporary.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by sjg007 »

hiram112 wrote: post #88
dudul wrote: post #66

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How is he supposed to do so? If they were indeed married and went through a divorce there is likely a court order forcing him to pay for her lifestyle.

Yep. In California or New York, it's typically a year of alimony for each 2 years of marriage. At 10 years, it's lifetime. So he definitely dodged a bullet. But for a few years, he's probably on the hook for half his income since she was stay-at-home with no career.

There's still going to be child support for sure but after the kid starts going to school she will be expected to get a job, if able, and if she remarries then generally you won't have to pay alimony anymore.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by Arcwise »

0xBA5ED wrote: post #90
k4ch0w wrote: post #86

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I like being around the guys here on HN. I don't mind that they are smarter than I. You always learn something new and are surrounded by the latest in Tech. I'd say just surrounding yourself with the people here will in turn make you smarter/knowledgeable.

Oh, I agree. I learn a lot here. It's the best corner of the web.

I just stumbled upon this website minutes ago and the comments on here immediately caught my eye. This place looks a lot like a poor man's Reddit but the discussions are on a whole other level; more focused and pithy, no jokes and memes. I really like it.
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