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Facebook Is the Junk Food of Socializing (2015)

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Re: Facebook Is the Junk Food of Socializing (2015)

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Post by andrewingram »

nordsieck wrote: post #125
morpheuskafka wrote: post #120

Anyone who choses to use FB is just not thinking. I could get joining Instagram, Snapchat, etc b/c of friends. But even if you don't care about privacy, don;t care about algorithms censoring human expression, and don't care about unauthorized physiological experiments to influence your emotions, why would you choose a platform with tons of ads, a terrible UI that fills up timelines with every time someone uploads a n…

> Anyone who choses to use FB is just not thinking. One of the answers to your implied question is events. I belong to one of many, many subcultures who organize almost exclusively through facebook. This one happens to be related to dancing. There are around 5 weekly events held regularly, along with a number regular of monthly-ish classes and around one special event per month held locally. Facebook is just way bett…

The downside is getting tagged every few hours by some dance promoter. In London there are numerous (3-4 at least) events for every night of the week, just for a single dance style, and all the promoters want my attention.

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Post by jamesrcole »

matthewwiese wrote: post #2

Interesting article, and I'm usually a fan of Nautilus pieces, but isn't this a bit obvious? Almost like 2017 is getting to be the year it's fashionable to poo poo social media (and Facebook in particular). Haven't used the site since about 2010 'cause the rank smell of the Skinner box made my nose curl from afar. I'm baffled that psych studies have to be referenced for people to see the obvious; and I'm certainly no…

> I'm baffled that psych studies have to be referenced for people to see the obvious

A lot of "the obvious" is wrong. Studies can help us determine whether it's actually right or wrong.

Pretty much any bit of knowledge we've accumulated over the centuries contradicts things that people thought were "obvious".

As an aside, I'm kinda amazed how common this "what's the point of studying something that's obvious" attitude is. You hear it anytime there's any research done on something that people take as "obvious".

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Post by jcadam »

Facebook has become something I absolutely can't stand. I have an account, but I very rarely even log in anymore. With ads, 'features stories', etc., the signal-to-noise ratio is just too low. Just perusing the news feed has become a chore, not to mention the privacy concerns.

I'd be willing to pay a small subscription fee for a social network that respects my privacy, doesn't track everything I do, and doesn't constantly bombard me with crap. Problem is, I'm in the minority. People everywhere claim to care about privacy but they actually don't :)

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Post by bitexploder »

dredmorbius wrote: post #152
rayiner wrote: post #110

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There isn’t some set number of relationships you can have such that you’ve got to pick out the “important” ones.

Actually, there very much are. Most people are familiar with Dunbar's number, which expresses the size of a total community. That's not the number of important relationships, but essentially the number of total relationships you can juggle. In your life, should it be a reasonably long one, you'll experience about a half-million waking hours. If you get to know 10,000 people in your life, the total time you can dedica…

Thanks for writing that out that was pretty much where I was thinking :)

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Post by folksinger »

rayiner wrote: post #42

These articles ignore people’s real alternatives. I’m in my 30s and have a small child. While I love to fly into Chicago or New York for a night of drinking with my still-single friends, that’s not really something I get to do more than once every couple of months. Seeing my wife’s extended family (3,000 miles away in the west coast) is a once every year thing, and seeing my extended family (7,000 miles away in Asia)…

Yes, and before recent innovations in prescription drugs, all that people had was heroin.

That's what fentanyl and oxys are replacing, and it's a huge improvement.

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Post by msiyer »

rayiner wrote: post #42

These articles ignore people’s real alternatives. I’m in my 30s and have a small child. While I love to fly into Chicago or New York for a night of drinking with my still-single friends, that’s not really something I get to do more than once every couple of months. Seeing my wife’s extended family (3,000 miles away in the west coast) is a once every year thing, and seeing my extended family (7,000 miles away in Asia)…

Facebook exists because it works for a section of the population. I do not like it. I do not use it. If someone likes it, I let them use it. I throw in a word of caution regarding privacy concerns etc. I, however, do not expect them to honor my views.

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Post by sonnyz »

Al-Khwarizmi wrote: post #145
2-4-Flinching wrote: post #88

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> This seems like an inconvenience you impose on everyone else to do things Facebook handles natively. If you're important to them, then people will do whatever they need to keep in touch with you. Inconvenience is when they don't care enough to keep in contact with you. While in a perfect world everyone would accept your impose line of communication, in your case Facebook, everyones preference is different.

> If you're important to them, then people will do whatever they need to keep in touch with you. Yes, but isn't it a bit ironic to say you don't use Facebook because it wastes your time, and then expect others to spend extra time communicating with you?

Maybe it is, but I'm sure that in my case, they enjoy the extra time they spend communicating with me.

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Post by kirRoyale »

babygoat wrote: post #100
Top19 wrote: post #87

Suggestion: go to church. It’s a built in community of people who are likely there because of ritual and tradition (am Catholic) and do not care about talking about startups or entrepreneurship (a breathtaking relief sometimes). Church and religion has gotten a lot well-justified complaints over the years, but by liberal and moderately-conservative people abandoning it in droves, it only made it more conservative and…

What if I can’t go to church because I can’t forgive them for protecting priests who raped children? How did you get past that?

It's naive to think they all were protecting people like that.

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Post by heedlessly3 »

Spooky23 wrote: post #58
rayiner wrote: post #42

These articles ignore people’s real alternatives. I’m in my 30s and have a small child. While I love to fly into Chicago or New York for a night of drinking with my still-single friends, that’s not really something I get to do more than once every couple of months. Seeing my wife’s extended family (3,000 miles away in the west coast) is a once every year thing, and seeing my extended family (7,000 miles away in Asia)…

Facebook is giving you the illusion of having relationships and appeals to some nostalgic programming in our brains. I have a once close friend who moved out to Oregon from the east coast. I talk to him every two years when somebody dies at home. Knowing that his kid won the pinewood derby doesn’t give us anything more in common.

That sounds like an acquaintanceship, not a close friend.

All my close friends, I direct message them almost everyday.

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