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Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by raverbashing »

timthelion wrote: post #19

I believe that social media is a symptom, not the cause, of the great loneliness that our modern aloneness has caused. We are alone much of the time, especially in American suburbia. Even when we are in the city filled with people, these people are just blank faces whom we do not know. We are seeking any form of connection that we can get. And when the only connection to others that we have is through the computer, w…

"Social junk food" is a good description

Though I think the hacker space example is not bad, the technology helped people come together, and brought them closer (at least initially)

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by rndgermandude »

throwaway413 wrote: post #16
PuffinBlue wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you expand on this? I don't really understand how x lead to y as i don't have much idea about social media addiction at all or its effects.

We moved to a new city. I work full time (from home) as a SWE. She is a stay at home mom. She met new people on IG in our new city, made friends. I thought it was great. My wife has a hole deep inside her from years of childhood abuse. She has no career, is early 20s like myself, and has yet to figure herself out. As the months went by, she filled that hole more and more with her connections on IG and less with our f…

wow, just wow. What about the kid or kids? If she got IG addicted to the point that she didn't even mind you leaving her...

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by dazc »

throwaway413 wrote: post #16
PuffinBlue wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you expand on this? I don't really understand how x lead to y as i don't have much idea about social media addiction at all or its effects.

We moved to a new city. I work full time (from home) as a SWE. She is a stay at home mom. She met new people on IG in our new city, made friends. I thought it was great. My wife has a hole deep inside her from years of childhood abuse. She has no career, is early 20s like myself, and has yet to figure herself out. As the months went by, she filled that hole more and more with her connections on IG and less with our f…

So all she needs now is 4K a month?

Have you thought of what you'll do when she hits reality and comes back begging for forgiveness?

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by olivermarks »

timthelion wrote: post #19

I believe that social media is a symptom, not the cause, of the great loneliness that our modern aloneness has caused. We are alone much of the time, especially in American suburbia. Even when we are in the city filled with people, these people are just blank faces whom we do not know. We are seeking any form of connection that we can get. And when the only connection to others that we have is through the computer, w…

http://nautil.us/blog/-why-facebook-is-the-junk-food-of-soci...

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by PuffinBlue »

throwaway413 wrote: post #16
PuffinBlue wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you expand on this? I don't really understand how x lead to y as i don't have much idea about social media addiction at all or its effects.

We moved to a new city. I work full time (from home) as a SWE. She is a stay at home mom. She met new people on IG in our new city, made friends. I thought it was great. My wife has a hole deep inside her from years of childhood abuse. She has no career, is early 20s like myself, and has yet to figure herself out. As the months went by, she filled that hole more and more with her connections on IG and less with our f…

I'm sorry this has happened. I hope you find a way through it for yourself.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by friendly_chap »

throwaway413 wrote: post #16
PuffinBlue wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you expand on this? I don't really understand how x lead to y as i don't have much idea about social media addiction at all or its effects.

We moved to a new city. I work full time (from home) as a SWE. She is a stay at home mom. She met new people on IG in our new city, made friends. I thought it was great. My wife has a hole deep inside her from years of childhood abuse. She has no career, is early 20s like myself, and has yet to figure herself out. As the months went by, she filled that hole more and more with her connections on IG and less with our f…

That's a really sad story but not unusual or rare at all.

Send me an email (it's on my profile) and I will send you a couple of materials to help you cope with that kind of life situation.

Stay strong.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by throwaway613834 »

enord wrote: post #10

Did this trend start with social media? We are doing lots of stuff to teenagers these days that we didnt do before. They are beholden to expectations far narrower than we were. We treat them as adults in school (by making them responsible for their own performance through grading and measuring) from a very young age, yet we don't really cut the umbelical cord (grant them autonomy) until they're in their twenties. Soc…

> We treat them as adults in school (by making them responsible for their own performance through grading and measuring) from a very young age

Really? I feel like even in college students don't always feel like they are responsible for their own performance & grades (and an honest one at that). Look at all the cheating and grade inflation and grading complaints (even by parents!!) that have gone towards becoming the norm over the last decade or two in college. In the adult world it's not like your mom can call your boss and complain about the fact that you got a bad review or something (at least not successfully...). It's not like it always used to be like this in school either. Kids are honestly just not maturing into adults as they used to, whether it their own fault, or their parents', or social media's, or the government's, or anyone else's.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by have_faith »

The internet has become a world wide soap opera that we are all characters in. ISP's sell a subscription service to minutely episodes of the whole spectrum of human emotion. I also get as much negative and positive feedback as I desire and can take a hit whenever I open my phone.

Re: Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed

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Post by std_throwaway »

throwaway613834 wrote: post #28
enord wrote: post #10

Did this trend start with social media? We are doing lots of stuff to teenagers these days that we didnt do before. They are beholden to expectations far narrower than we were. We treat them as adults in school (by making them responsible for their own performance through grading and measuring) from a very young age, yet we don't really cut the umbelical cord (grant them autonomy) until they're in their twenties. Soc…

> We treat them as adults in school (by making them responsible for their own performance through grading and measuring) from a very young age Really? I feel like even in college students don't always feel like they are responsible for their own performance & grades (and an honest one at that). Look at all the cheating and grade inflation and grading complaints (even by parents!!) that have gone towards becoming the…

> In the adult world it's not like your mom can call your boss and complain about the fact that you got a bad review or something (at least not successfully...).

Don't be so sure about that. Parents are starting to talk to university professors on behalf of their adult children.

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