It's not that options are worthless, they're great in fact. It's that the C-suite and the investors usually divvy up the pie amongst themselves and give the rank and file the crumbs that stuck to the pie pan. But let's do the math. The
average startup exit is ~$243M, let's call it $250M for say 4 years of work.
https://www.inc.com/issie-lapowsky/average-successful-startu...
Let's say you get paid $150K salary for those 4 years of work at the startup vs $300K at BigCo. To break even, you need to close a $600K deficit, that means you need at least 0.25% just to break even with a guaranteed ROI.
Now let's say you're experienced and you're getting $500K at BigCo, now you need ~0.6% just to break even.
Finally, now you're a domain expert and you're getting $1M at BigCo, now you need ~1.4% just to break even.
In my case, I would need at least 2x the listed equity in each of these scenarios to choose the startup over BigCo. I have never been offered numbers like that. I have had CEOs and CTOs get indignant with me over my math though. Math is hard I guess.
However, if you crave autonomy and freedom, I think the message is clear here: be the C-suite at your own startup, even if you have to bootstrap from a place with a lower cost of living. Lifestyle income is a lot easier than building a $250M+ company IMO.