I'm not entirely sure I subscribe to this "behavior based" vs "merit based" look at job performance. Consider this criterion: > 1. After encountering the person, do people feel oppressed, humiliated or otherwise worse about themselves? Bob and Mary are staunch members of . While they never discuss it at work, Mary deeply resents the views Bob posts on social media. During a code review, Bob is bluntly critical of Mar…
> Bob and Mary are staunch members of . While they never discuss it at work, Mary deeply resents the views Bob posts on social media. I'm assuming Bob and Mary are members of opposing political parties? Even if that is not the case, is it really mandatory to friend/follow co-workers' stream of consciousness on social media? Wouldn't it be more productive (from Mary's perspective) to segment professional from personal…
I suppose my point is: criticism and being a jerk are orthogonal in theory, but in practice it's much more difficult.
Making a rule that says, you can get someone fired if they hurt your feelings gives disproportionate power to anyone with thin skin.