“Why I cancelled my ReactiveConf talk”
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#2ok. people can be offended by things that weren't intended to offend them. this does happen from time to time.
buy why would the speaker withdraw instead of contacting the event organizers? if it bothered her, she wouldn't necessarily have to go into any detail as to why she found it offensive. she should just chew them out for this debacle and threaten to withdraw if they don't alter the image.
this whole thing seems like a poor choice by the event organizers, followed by a poor reaction from a speaker, which led to a poor response from the organizers.
you aren't automatically "right" just because the other guy is wrong.
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#3ok. people can be offended by things that weren't intended to offend them. this does happen from time to time. buy why would the speaker withdraw instead of contacting the event organizers? if it bothered her, she wouldn't necessarily have to go into any detail as to why she found it offensive. she should just chew them out for this debacle and threaten to withdraw if they don't alter the image. this whole thing seem…
She wanted to be taken seriously, that undermined it, she has that right. That the organizers responded the way they did says enough:
This is not how adults handle situations.
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#4Rather rash reaction after such a self-admitted sacrifice "HALFWAY ACROSS THE WURLLLLDDDDD" which sidestepped the initial reachout and request for mediation. Almost sounds like a bad ben stiller romcom trope of the whole ordeal can be sorted out via a short dialogue.
Kind of reminds me of the final scene of jane austins Mafia! Where madam president asks if her husband, the godfather, killed everyone.
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#5only to see that the conference organizers had photoshopped my face onto a sexualized image of Wonder Woman without my consent, printed it out, and framed it.
Isn’t it just an image of Wonder Woman, in full kit? Moreover, this iteration was recently hailed as a bit of a kickass lady, rather than a sex symbol. What makes this “sexualized” rather than a compliment about being like a Wonder Woman?
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#6So Eastern European.
I was at an Elastic conference in Poland where there were all sorts of ads which would be considered offensive here. Like one depicting a Native American chief in full head dress spouting some vague Indian-ish proverb with a tech slant.
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#8ok. people can be offended by things that weren't intended to offend them. this does happen from time to time. buy why would the speaker withdraw instead of contacting the event organizers? if it bothered her, she wouldn't necessarily have to go into any detail as to why she found it offensive. she should just chew them out for this debacle and threaten to withdraw if they don't alter the image. this whole thing seem…
She wanted to be taken seriously, that undermined it, she has that right. That the organizers responded the way they did says enough: This is not how adults handle situations.
Perspective - if someone photoshopped my face onto pancho villa I could choose to be undermined or be a good sport about it, regardless of how wrong the other party may have been.
I will say this, being outraged may vault her into the limelight and accelerate her name recognition, if not for a moment. Almost sounds like an incentive to choose to be a victim
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#9Earlier quoted context omitted.
She wanted to be taken seriously, that undermined it, she has that right. That the organizers responded the way they did says enough: This is not how adults handle situations.
Perspective - if someone photoshopped my face onto pancho villa I could choose to be undermined or be a good sport about it, regardless of how wrong the other party may have been. I will say this, being outraged may vault her into the limelight and accelerate her name recognition, if not for a moment. Almost sounds like an incentive to choose to be a victim
Or maybe she had a legitimate reason to be offended. You don't get to chose that.
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#10This should be buried, and I would never invite her to speak again because she is drama.
This is a trend of hyper sensitivity that requires everyone to walk on eggshells and wear kid gloves because who knows what could trigger the emotional reaction. Really, think about this - what if a company tries to do something fun, like for halloween, and buys clip-on ties for the guys and clip-on hair ties for the girls, but then someone flips out saying "I'm a guy why do i have to be stereotyped into having a tie, this is so sexist! (and the girls can do the reverse - I want a tie!). It's all just nonsense from people who don't have any emotional maturity, really.
Were the conference organizers trying to do the wrong thing? Doesn't sound like it at all. They probably thought "wonder woman is cool, this lady is cool, this image will be cool" and it was actually an act to celebrate her.
Instead she flips out. Great, real mature. Then she posts conversations she had with them and demonizes them. real mature.
And about her point of being sexualized - what if a guy had his face photoshopped onto he-man and that guy complained about being sexualized because now his face is on a shirtless strong dude. These arguments only go one way for people like this.
There is a line, of course, and sexual harassment is real. But this isn't anywhere near the line, its not even in the same field. We need to send a message back to her that she is the one being drama and needs to grow up and be a 'real adult' like she says she is.