I think emotional labor is real but the cited article is, to put it politely, lacking.
Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
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Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#12This article makes a solid point, but I wonder if it's another case of fighting against popular connotation just like the word "hacker". Once an idiom gains popularity it doesn't matter if it's completely opposite its intended meaning, the populace wins (eg. "literally" or "I could care less").
I want to write a blog posts of words that's become meaningless. Trolling, political correctness, diversity, unicorn, etc.
Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#13Putting aside the misuse of the term, "emotional labor" as a problem strikes me as possibly the least significant of all problems faced by any people group in all of history. I wonder why we spend so much time and energy tackling these kinds of issues when there are so many more pressing problems (for example, the workplace fatality gap). If "emotional labor" is the next frontier for feminism, then feminism is a dist…
Really? Half the population has had to continuously, thanklessly, and systemically lug around the emotional weight of the other half for centuries, and you consider this a distraction? I'd say this issue is at the very core of gender politics. The more we're aware of it, the happier we'll be in our relationships and our lives. I've learned it's a massive blind spot in my own emotional intelligence and I'm thankful my eyes have been opened.
Allow yourself to become a better person.
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#14Earlier quoted context omitted.
Each person has their own concerns, and their actions and interests derive from these -- not yours. If this kind of reaction is the next frontier of your commenting, well then commenting is a distraction and thus counterproductive.
That's an awfully backhanded and snide way of insulting someone. Counterproductive? Why, because you don't like the point they're trying to make?
You realise I'm literally quoting his comment?
I don't think it's counterproductive. My whole point is not to presume everyone should have your concerns.
Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#15This article makes a solid point, but I wonder if it's another case of fighting against popular connotation just like the word "hacker". Once an idiom gains popularity it doesn't matter if it's completely opposite its intended meaning, the populace wins (eg. "literally" or "I could care less").
I want to write a blog posts of words that's become meaningless. Trolling, political correctness, diversity, unicorn, etc.
I would read that!
Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#16Putting aside the misuse of the term, "emotional labor" as a problem strikes me as possibly the least significant of all problems faced by any people group in all of history. I wonder why we spend so much time and energy tackling these kinds of issues when there are so many more pressing problems (for example, the workplace fatality gap). If "emotional labor" is the next frontier for feminism, then feminism is a dist…
Really? Half the population has had to continuously, thanklessly, and systemically lug around the emotional weight of the other half for centuries, and you consider this a distraction? I'd say this issue is at the very core of gender politics. The more we're aware of it, the happier we'll be in our relationships and our lives. I've learned it's a massive blind spot in my own emotional intelligence and I'm thankful my…
Your viewpoint is depressingly conformist, assumptive and heteronormative.
Modern feminism isn't doing enough to break down gender roles, it instead bemoans them, and in doing so inadvertently reinforces them - we should be working harder to break down gender roles, instead of attacking the people who are just following the path society has informed them is the path they're supposed to take. Modern feminism also seems to mostly assume that only women are injured by these societal norms, which I believe is demonstrably untrue.
It's also harmful to ascribe to gender what we ought to ascribe to individuals not communicating adequately about their needs/wants/hopes, or just individuals being individuals.
Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#17Putting aside the misuse of the term, "emotional labor" as a problem strikes me as possibly the least significant of all problems faced by any people group in all of history. I wonder why we spend so much time and energy tackling these kinds of issues when there are so many more pressing problems (for example, the workplace fatality gap). If "emotional labor" is the next frontier for feminism, then feminism is a dist…
The trick with Maslow's Hierarchy is that it's not a serial process. Problems can happen in parallel, and different combinations of problems can happen to different kinds of people. All of society is not carried up and down the pyramid in lockstep, as we can clearly see. This means it's really hard to define any objective "significance" to a problem. "Fundamental", sure; you can't worry about the cost of emotional la…
It sounds like you're saying that both problems can be addressed simultaneously, but this isn't mutually exclusive with the OP's point that our efforts to address problems should be allocated according to their respective severities. In other words, the OP isn't saying "We shouldn't spend any effort addressing 'emotional labor'", only that the amount should be very small relative to the myriad other problems.
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#18please stop starting articles with please stop
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#19Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's an awfully backhanded and snide way of insulting someone. Counterproductive? Why, because you don't like the point they're trying to make?
You realise I'm literally quoting his comment? I don't think it's counterproductive. My whole point is not to presume everyone should have your concerns.
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Re: Please Stop Calling Everything That Frustrates You Emotional Labor
#20This article makes a solid point, but I wonder if it's another case of fighting against popular connotation just like the word "hacker". Once an idiom gains popularity it doesn't matter if it's completely opposite its intended meaning, the populace wins (eg. "literally" or "I could care less").
I want to write a blog posts of words that's become meaningless. Trolling, political correctness, diversity, unicorn, etc.
please do, i'd read it.