No, of that I'm innocent

It's incredibly difficult to talk about this specific post in a constructive way without wallowing in the mud.

The content makes child-like arguments[0] and contradictory statements[1] to the point where it feels like an unstable foundation to have a conversation. It's like trying to have a debate where neither side agrees with the foundational logic of the other sides arguments.

[0] - "None of the women who came forward were ever in a position where I could make or break their careers. Sexual Harassment requires that I have such power"

[1] - "Perhaps because they felt peer pressure to join the #MeToo bandwagon, perhaps because they felt slighted for other reasons. I won’t speculate on their motives."

Since it was originally addressed to me and you claim it is an honest question:

Mostly not in work settings or work related settings, and much more carefully than in the past when dating norms hinged on the assumption that men were providers and women were destined to become homemakers. You have to consider how this impacts both your career and hers, not just yours alone.

To give an example that I hope elucidates something: A senior programmer at the company I worked for asked for a date under circumstances that did not constitute bad behavior insofar as being against company rules, nor would be a problem for his career. But it basically slammed doors shut in my face and made it less likely I could get a job in the department he worked in. He was an otherwise attractive man that I might have happily got involved with, but his monstrous disregard for how this impacted my career prospects was a deal breaker for me.

I hope sex becomes a less touchy topic over time, but I don't imagine it will ever stop being an issue.

> Every act of infidelity, every time I have watched an adult video online,

How watching porn equates to cheat on your wife? Very weird moral compass.

Without making any moral judgments here, the guy has a valid point in that it's important to make a distinction between cheating in a relationship and sexual harassment. The former is a non-illegal, personal matter, and the latter is a criminal matter. I think most people probably aren't interested in making this distinction and would prefer to indiscriminately shun either kind of person, but this the importance of this lies in the #MeToo thing becoming a witchhunt. Sexual harassment/assault/rape is different that many other crimes in that mere accusations, convictions be damned, can completely ruin an otherwise innocent person's life. I could definitely imagine the #MeToo tag being used to shame someone, because it has reached witchhunt proportions. See the recent claims about H.W. Bush.

I claim to know nothing about what actually happened between this guy and these women, and all of the armchair judges here that are jumping to conclusions ought to realize that they, too, know nothing.

I'll preface this with, I don't know who this guy is and this is the first time I heard anything about this, I am unfamiliar with the allegations.

I am just absolutely shocked by this

>I don’t have employees, I don’t cut checks for investment. None of the women who came forward were ever in a position where I could make or break their careers. Sexual Harassment requires that I have such power.

JFC, does anyone actually believe this? This is absolutely... Shocking. Disturbing... I have no words...

Shouldn't he have consulted with the EEOC before making such a bold statement?

https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm

>The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer.

It just makes it seem like he has no idea what appropriate behavior is at all. Really takes away from his credibility. Makes me think he's a total creep but thinks it's other people who are the problem.

Also, it stood out to me it seems odd that he used "sexual harassment" as a proper noun.