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Taking decades to draw certain conclusions about my own life is not something I would describe as casual.
How many decades of life do the people have under their belt that you're judging?
I've had experiences that are reminiscent of Michele's over the past 10+ years.
I can tell you that neither your own comments, nor the comments others made to Michele that you're now trying to defend, are at all helpful, and in both cases can be quite damaging.
Please show some humanity and give it a rest.