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Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by jack1243star »

pmarreck wrote: post #210
taylodl wrote: post #2

The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook app from my phone. I had already disabled all the notifications, but that didn't change things like deleting the app. Not being able to get to Facebook wherever you are. As silly as it sounds it was liberating. I still access Facebook from my laptop - but now that it's off of my phone, I'm accessing Facebook less and less frequently and I'm find I'm happier as a resul…

You could always just use the mobile version of the website. Uses less battery power, too!

They wouldn't let me see my messages without installing Messenger.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by sidcool »

taylodl wrote: post #2

The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook app from my phone. I had already disabled all the notifications, but that didn't change things like deleting the app. Not being able to get to Facebook wherever you are. As silly as it sounds it was liberating. I still access Facebook from my laptop - but now that it's off of my phone, I'm accessing Facebook less and less frequently and I'm find I'm happier as a resul…

This is true, and now even scientifically backed.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/amitchowdhry/2016/04/30/study-l...

https://www.nature.com/news/how-facebook-fake-news-and-frien...

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by greggman »

taylodl wrote: post #2

The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook app from my phone. I had already disabled all the notifications, but that didn't change things like deleting the app. Not being able to get to Facebook wherever you are. As silly as it sounds it was liberating. I still access Facebook from my laptop - but now that it's off of my phone, I'm accessing Facebook less and less frequently and I'm find I'm happier as a resul…

I get no notifications from my Facebook app (I'm on iOS). What am I missing? I do get notifications of messages from the Messenger app but I want those as they are from friends

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by Yhippa »

Can you imagine being a product manager at Facebook?

You are competing against other product managers and people at the company to be a rising star or to get that big bonus. You are rated on the code that makes it to production and it's lift.

I can't imagine the scheming that goes on to get your stuff into the website or app. All in the name of drawing in more advertisers or people who will pay for the data.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by wincy »

odammit wrote: post #192
taylodl wrote: post #2

The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook app from my phone. I had already disabled all the notifications, but that didn't change things like deleting the app. Not being able to get to Facebook wherever you are. As silly as it sounds it was liberating. I still access Facebook from my laptop - but now that it's off of my phone, I'm accessing Facebook less and less frequently and I'm find I'm happier as a resul…

1. Delete Facebook 2. Get banned from HN 3. Be super productive I'm pretty much in an FB and HN dopamine loop all day. -_- Not sure if I'm ready to pull the trigger.

Well with HN you could just use the noprocrast mode, or I've found that editing your hosts file makes sure that you're intentionally browsing a website. I deactivated Facebook, which has surprised me because I still hear from the people I care about (My grandma was a little annoyed but now she's started emailing me). I've also discovered that checking the news once a week (or even once a month!) doesn't make me feel less informed than checking it every day.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by wincy »

1001101 wrote: post #93
bg4 wrote: post #60

Earlier quoted context omitted.

For me: The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook.

Even better, don't sign up. I'm envious of my friends who are in this category. I deleted after reading about PRISM, then got back on. Deleted again, and then moved away from some friends and got lonely and got back on again. Luckily more and more of my friends are deleting, so should be easier to take the plunge again.

I've found that since my wife and I both deactivated, we've suddenly been finding friends in new places. I invited a coworker and his family over for dinner, which was a great time. We've reconnected with some family of hers that we always thought "they're really nice people, we should get to know them better". Heck, we were at the neighborhood playground in our the other day and we invited a family over to dinner which was a lot of fun. Reconditioning myself to actually talk to people in real life has been really rewarding for me and my family. I used to have really severe anxiety, and it's scary to make that first contact, but man, it's worth it.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by wincy »

jandrese wrote: post #20
taylodl wrote: post #2

The best thing I ever did was delete the Facebook app from my phone. I had already disabled all the notifications, but that didn't change things like deleting the app. Not being able to get to Facebook wherever you are. As silly as it sounds it was liberating. I still access Facebook from my laptop - but now that it's off of my phone, I'm accessing Facebook less and less frequently and I'm find I'm happier as a resul…

Of course you know Facebook works fine through the web browser on your phone. The app is a big bloated hunk of unnecessary. The course is clear, you need to delete your web browser too.

You joke about this, but my wife and I, in an effort to change our default behaviors, both put parental locks on each others phones disabling the browsers and app installs. We still had GPS and phone and text messaging. We've re-enabled it now, but it definitely unconditioned us from seeking entertainment in our phones.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by takeda »

hammock wrote: post #96
mafuyu wrote: post #43

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I installed the Lite version of Messenger, and it's way better. (Not available in the US App Store; there are verified APKs floating around the internet.) It's just a bare-bones chat app that launches when I want it, without all the nagging about chat bubbles, their Snapchat knockoff, and whatever else.

You can also go to Facebook on Chrome and request the desktop version of the site- Messages will work in that. That way you don't have to install a Messages app.

Actually you don't need to use desktop version. It tries to make you install it, but if you just click back to exit Play Store, and on the FB page to prompt the installation there's a faint X that you can click. At least it works in Opera Mobile.

Interestingly if I leave the tab open I also get notifications if someone responded.

Re: Facebook, You Needy Sonofabitch

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Post by djsumdog »

zaphar wrote: post #141
lamby wrote: post #33

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Less Facebook == more happy More productive, less distracted, etc., sure but was FB really getting you down that much? Am I just using Facebook "wrong" in that it's not upsetting me the same way it upsets others?

I quit Facebook initially because of notification spam. However I discovered something afterwards. I had less negative feelings toward family and friends. I had unconsciously been forming an opinion of them that was based on the habits Facebook was encouraging rather than their actual personality. In a sense I'm a lot happier not knowing that Great Aunt Gertrude shared that post. And most of the time Aunt Gertrude di…

I just never read the wall thingy. When I go to FB, it's either directly to the messenger or to facebook.com/. I really only use it for the IM. I hate how it's 2017 and it doesn't have simple things like bold* or colors, that were available in AIM/MSN/Yahoo/EveryotherMessenger before (not to mention until the early 2010s, FB message was the most unreliable piece of garbage in the world. If you used Pidgin/Audium/anything XMPP, half the time messages wouldn't get through).

I have too many friends spread across the world to ever quit FB, but I only really use it for messages. I only post things if they promote my website and pull people to my content and away from Facebook. Since that's all I do, my posts obviously don't get as much reach. It's kinda the opposite of the Silent Bob effect. You have a friend who always says crap and you ignore them. If someone says things only once a week; you pay attention when they have something to say.

Facebook basically penalizes people who only speak when they have something important to say and rewards people who cannot learn to shut the hell up.

*I realize it has bold now, but it doesn't work universally across all their tools: mobile, web, etc. I know people who just use unicode symbols for italics because it's more reliable.

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