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Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by ekanes »

jondubois wrote: post #8

For the past 10 years, I only spent about 4 to 8 hours per week on entertainment - All the rest of my time was divided between work and sleep (I only sleep 5 hours per day on weekdays). Financially, I have nothing to show for it unfortunately so I really feel like I'm behind and that I've missed the boat on many things. What makes it particularly difficult is that I was working really hard the whole time - When I rea…

All of your prep/efforts could be worthwhile, you just haven't found your opportunity yet. The path to wherever you want to go might not be linear.

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Post by drakonka »

jaggederest wrote: post #102
speeder wrote: post #93

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What you changed in your environment? (I ask because I had same experience, except now that I am diagnosed I am struggling to find what I am supposed to do... I am kinda spinning in place without going anywhere)

TL;DR - I found this book effective, you should read it instead of listening to me blather below: https://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Adult-Russell-Barkley-e... --- The biggest things, broadly, are: Step 0: Get engaged medically - with diagnosis, collaboration, and medication. ADHD is not something you can manage on your own. It's literally "the disorder of not being able to fix the problems you can clearly see", so…

This is amazing, thank you. I feel this way every day - I have a lot of motivation and every day not actively working to learn or make something feels like a waste. It feels like I just spent the day in some kind of lazy heavy fog with nothing to show for it. To be honest I highly doubt I have ADHD, but I think this advice might help me regardless and I'll consider seeing a therapist to help with this.

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Post by tikhon »

corey_moncure wrote: post #89
foobarbecue wrote: post #19

Reading this made me realize that my regret usually targets the previous hours or day. Generally, if I look at the last month or year or decade, I'm impressed with what I've accomplished. And yet I'm always disappointed with my immediate past. I think this short-term regret may be the reaction mass I'm igniting to propel me forward. To borrow a phrase from finnthehuman above, this short-term regret is the fire lit un…

I didn't have any regrets until I sat and watched cryptocoin for 6 years and did nothing about it.

You are still incredibly early to the space. Most people in the world don't hold any crypto nor do they even know what it is.

Many famous investors and entrepreneurs who came to Silicon Valley in the early 1990s thought they had "missed it." Everything up until now is a sunk cost. Operate accordingly.

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Post by x2f10 »

a3n wrote: post #26
insertnickname wrote: post #5

For the love God, why is the opacity set to 0 on the text? So that JS can be used to fade in the text... Why would you do this? You're just annoying people who do have JS enabled with annoying animations and barring people who don't have JS enabled from reading your content. It's not even that JS is used to dynamically fetch the content, all the content is right there in the HTML, it's just deliberately hidden with C…

> For the love God, why is the opacity set to 0 on the text? So that JS can be used to fade in the text... Ah. How long was I supposed to wait for this fade-in? I skim/read the HN comments, went back and the body was still blank. "Too cute to read."

>How long was I supposed to wait for this fade-in?

It never did for me. I was able to read the article only after suspending my ad blocker (uBlock Origin).

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Post by songzme »

woogiewonka wrote: post #168
songzme wrote: post #110

In April I left google to teach people how to code. I teach for free and I focus primarily on low income adults who are making less than 30k / year in the bay area. Throughout their lives, my students have felt that they were 'behind' and they are not good enough. This mindset creates adults with low self esteem, which then prevents them from learning. Many times, they nod their head in understanding when they really…

How does one join your program? :)

Currently, only through referrals (from current students) and we find people through our local library (We volunteer there every Saturday to help people learn how to code. When we have openings we invite them to join)

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Post by ruleabidinguser »

lkbm wrote: post #209
ruleabidinguser wrote: post #81

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No one really wants to work

I would like to spend all day doing fun, personal projects. But I've tried having all day to spend on fun personal projects, and it turns out spend the time "goofing off". (Not "enjoying life" goofing off, but "dopamine cycle on Facebook" goofing off.) I like work because it has me doing stuff that's similar to what I want to do in my free time, but provides the necessary incentives to actually do it each day. My job…

I think everyone's incentive is to work as little as possible (work is straining). But a culture of shame has everyone instead claiming that's not true (and lost for what is)

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Post by renaudg »

emptyfile wrote: post #157
coldtea wrote: post #115

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Or you know, a country with actual pension plans, like most of Western Europe at least.

Hardly any country in Europe has a decent pension plan. The Netherlands has one, Australia, and I guess Norway.

France for sure, and I suppose Germany.

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by lkbm »

ruleabidinguser wrote: post #216
lkbm wrote: post #209

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I would like to spend all day doing fun, personal projects. But I've tried having all day to spend on fun personal projects, and it turns out spend the time "goofing off". (Not "enjoying life" goofing off, but "dopamine cycle on Facebook" goofing off.) I like work because it has me doing stuff that's similar to what I want to do in my free time, but provides the necessary incentives to actually do it each day. My job…

I think everyone's incentive is to work as little as possible (work is straining). But a culture of shame has everyone instead claiming that's not true (and lost for what is)

Exercising is straining, but I'm planning on doing a 60 mile bike ride tomorrow, purely for the enjoyment of it.

Meaningful work and a sense of accomplishment doesn't seem like it's caused by a culture of shame. I can get that from a hobby (painting, writing, programming, carpentry), or I can get it from a job (painting, writing, programming, carpentry). In either case, it seems normal beyond the boundaries of culture to derive satisfaction from this.

It might be a lot harder to derive satisfaction from hobbies with no "productive" output (my long bike ride, hiking in the woods) due to a culture insisting on productivity, but I don't think it's true that the productive ones would be valued less than non-productive ones if not for enculturation.

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