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Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by fratlas »

dvfjsdhgfv wrote: post #64
enraged_camel wrote: post #60

Earlier quoted context omitted.

>>99% of the world, and most of the US live their liveσ without ever having one in the bank anyway. Sure, but if you want to have real influence, you need lots of money. We are talking about things like owning media conglomerates and shaping the way the world thinks and behaves. That to me is a lot more interesting than having your own tiny slice of the pie and going through the motions until you die.

I still think it's overrated. Let's take Trump for example - he has both money and power (arguably more than mainstream media since he won in spite of them). Do you think he's happy? He doesn't seem to be. Would even more money and power make him happier? I doubt it.

I think Musk is a better example. Money is just a medium for him to change the world for the better. I'm sure being rich makes Musk happy, only because it enables him to make a difference.

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by fratlas »

KirinDave wrote: post #66

Articles like this make me uncomfortable, in part because of the huge sum of work I put into making sure I'm abreast of major developments in my field, and learn new fields. I did this because I am behind (my Christian School was just awful for the most part, physics was God's love and math was for liars and moneylenders), and I'll probably never, ever catch up. But still, I am trying to improve. But sometimes I talk…

How do you attempt to fix being behind? Books, blog posts?

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by kcorbitt »

enraged_camel wrote: post #61
nxc18 wrote: post #37

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If your worried about money, is suggest getting a job at a decent company (reading between the lines it sounds like you've put your time in ventures) and having a financial plan. A small dose of austerity and planning can make you a millionaire in a short time, with relatively little risk. It won't be more money than you know what to do with, but you'll be comfortable enough to retire and then be as lazy as you want.…

Nah, I want "fuck you money" so that work becomes optional. I want to work on what I want, not what someone else wants. I want to work because I want to, not because I have to. Retirement isn't good enough. By the time you retire you are in your 60s, which is too late for me.

You can reach financial independence in your 30s if you work for a big tech company for 10 years and watch your spending. I think that's what your parent comment was referring to.

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by mulcahey »

mhh__ wrote: post #57
Maro wrote: post #21

Personally (I'm 36) I like the 'pressure' I receive all the time, from all over the place, like the ones mentioned in the article: why don't I have a six-pack, why am I not more 'perfect' with my g/f, why am I not working on my startup, why haven't I made a billion yet, why is Elon Musk so f---ing more productive, and so on. It shows me that more can be done, I could do more, it pushes me to do more. I realize it wou…

Well, Elon Musk is so wealthy has no excuse for not being (or at least looking) productive.

at least most of the time...

https://twitter.com/elonmusk/status/731604873540685825

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by jaggederest »

tastyface wrote: post #52
jondubois wrote: post #8

For the past 10 years, I only spent about 4 to 8 hours per week on entertainment - All the rest of my time was divided between work and sleep (I only sleep 5 hours per day on weekdays). Financially, I have nothing to show for it unfortunately so I really feel like I'm behind and that I've missed the boat on many things. What makes it particularly difficult is that I was working really hard the whole time - When I rea…

For me personally, "being lazy" is awful because I'm stuck in a constant battle between my personality (which wants to mould to the shape of my couch and watch TV forever) and my mind (which desperately wants to leave a mark on the world). Every day I spend couch potatoing feels like a complete and utter failure of the soul, and it seems like most of my effort is actually spent on trying to bend my personality into t…

I've felt like this my entire life. Turns out for me that it is a symptom of (undiagnosed) ADHD - an execution problem, not a motivational problem. Having gotten that diagnosed, it's a very significant change in my life. To be cliche, the first day of the rest of my life.

For many people, "trying to bend their personality into the shape [they] want it to be" is fruitless, totally counterproductive.

The first thing I had to learn was that in order to change my behavior, I had to change my environment, not my attitudes. My attitudes are fine, indeed, perhaps excessively eager.

It's possible that other people could take something away from that, ADHD or not, it's better to accept and appreciate who you are and the value you bring to the world, and instead seek to make changes to where you are, what is around you, and how you relate through that to the rest of the world.

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by ruleabidinguser »

jaggederest wrote: post #76
tastyface wrote: post #52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

For me personally, "being lazy" is awful because I'm stuck in a constant battle between my personality (which wants to mould to the shape of my couch and watch TV forever) and my mind (which desperately wants to leave a mark on the world). Every day I spend couch potatoing feels like a complete and utter failure of the soul, and it seems like most of my effort is actually spent on trying to bend my personality into t…

I've felt like this my entire life. Turns out for me that it is a symptom of (undiagnosed) ADHD - an execution problem, not a motivational problem. Having gotten that diagnosed, it's a very significant change in my life. To be cliche, the first day of the rest of my life. For many people, "trying to bend their personality into the shape [they] want it to be" is fruitless, totally counterproductive. The first thing I…

What reason is there to think ADHD is just nice words for failure?

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by ruleabidinguser »

aoeuasdf1 wrote: post #69
babaganoosh89 wrote: post #65

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What's so great about TV? If you want to do something then do it. Otherwise you didn't want to do it in the first place.

People contain multitudes. "You" aren't a single entity which wants or doesn't want things. There is such thing as internal conflict.

Personally disagree

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by ogreface »

mcguire wrote: post #51

Apropos of nothing, " Zack Kanter, Boulder, CO-based entrepreneur, speaker, futurist, and writer, CEO of Proforged, amateur chef, all-around nerd. " I don't think that's the Proforged ( http://proforged.com/ ) that makes suspension parts. Or maybe it is. https://github.com/Proforged

That's him. Though he doesn't seem to have updated his personal website, he's now CEO/Founder of Stedi: http://www.stedi.com/

Re: You are not 'behind'

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Post by robotresearcher »

thewarrior wrote: post #42
jblow wrote: post #23

The article as a whole is nonsensical. It is a little bit correct when it says that regret is not a useful reaction to a past you're unhappy with, but even that by itself is misleading. Regret is a useful emotion that helps you shape future actions. What is not useful is paralyzing regret, or any flavor of regret that keeps you wallowing in the past. When he says "you are not behind", that is mostly wrong. If you're…

Just like that Van Gogh dude who just started seriously drawing at 25. Way behind he was. And don't get me started on that slouch Cezanne . What with becoming a master in his 60s and all that.

And how happy was Van Gogh?
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