That happens to me as well with my cousin. Apart from the deceased facebook page that they already have, they could avoid sending messages if they see that a user hasn't logged in in the past 2 months for example. Either that person is no longer with us or he or she has decided to give up facebook. Either way it's annoying for everyone involved.
Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
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Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#12Imagine if there was a method of notifying facebook that members are dead. Now imagine the sheer insanity that would result from random people 'deadifying' their friends as a practical joke. Even if it was 'verified' by humans at some point, there would still be error and it would be a nightmare. Getting told to 'reconnect' with a dead friend can be mildly traumatic. Finding out that your friend is dead when they're…
> Getting told to 'reconnect' with a dead friend can be mildly traumatic.
Not if it directs them to a virtual ouija board.
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#13I had a glorious day last year where linked in recommended a friend who had committed suicide a few days earlier AND the person who many years earlier had shot and killed a couple of my friends. I wonder what the odds on not 1 but 2 at the same time are...
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#14Imagine if there was a method of notifying facebook that members are dead. Now imagine the sheer insanity that would result from random people 'deadifying' their friends as a practical joke. Even if it was 'verified' by humans at some point, there would still be error and it would be a nightmare. Getting told to 'reconnect' with a dead friend can be mildly traumatic. Finding out that your friend is dead when they're…
That's exactly what you can do - I had to last year for a friend, see: http://www.facebook.com/#!/help/contact.php?show_form=deceas...
Does it notify their friends? eg "XXXXX has regrettably died" :/
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#15You know, software developers know EXACTLY why facebook is recommending dead friends. Yes, almost all of us KNOW that the algorithm has absolutely no way of knowing that dude is dead. We also understand exactly why the trigger "he is not posting much" works.
But for whatever reason, when someone mentions something like this, we pretend we don't know the algorithms behind it. Dudes, you know it's no facebook conspiracy - they are just using some standard algorithms you understand pretty well, so let's not pretend like it's some special thing.
If their algorithms somehow parsed the RIP on his wall and stopped suggesting him, then THAT would be special.
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#16Imagine if there was a method of notifying facebook that members are dead. Now imagine the sheer insanity that would result from random people 'deadifying' their friends as a practical joke. Even if it was 'verified' by humans at some point, there would still be error and it would be a nightmare. Getting told to 'reconnect' with a dead friend can be mildly traumatic. Finding out that your friend is dead when they're…
'reconnecting' with a dead friend can also be mildly therapeutic.
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#17Yeah fessbock is wanting you to die so youew can reacenact wide yer olde pal. Hopto
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#18Quite the dilemma. When this happened to me, a former coworker who succumbed to cancer. I thought about unfriending him just to make the suggestion go away but that gesture is just too cold. I'd rather FB provide a mechanism to mute their "reconnect" suggestions.
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#19You know, software developers know EXACTLY why facebook is recommending dead friends. Yes, almost all of us KNOW that the algorithm has absolutely no way of knowing that dude is dead. We also understand exactly why the trigger "he is not posting much" works. But for whatever reason, when someone mentions something like this, we pretend we don't know the algorithms behind it. Dudes, you know it's no facebook conspirac…
Yes, we know how it works. Someone was looking at what happens in the common case and didn't think of this edge case. It's a reminder that social situations are complex and though we try, it's impossible to think of every edge case.
That's why you need a way for people to report bugs to you, a way to quickly disable features that aren't working, and a process to fix them.
Re: Facebook suggests I "reconnect" with a dead friend
#20You know, software developers know EXACTLY why facebook is recommending dead friends. Yes, almost all of us KNOW that the algorithm has absolutely no way of knowing that dude is dead. We also understand exactly why the trigger "he is not posting much" works. But for whatever reason, when someone mentions something like this, we pretend we don't know the algorithms behind it. Dudes, you know it's no facebook conspirac…
Well, they get involved if you try to call yourself "Naked Jen" -- why can't they get involved if someone is dead. If there's a story in a reputable newspaper that says the guy is dead, what's the problem? At least stop poking people about reconnecting with teh dead guy. What's so freakishly hard about that??